I already have her and have been with her for almost a year... but I mean I want to keep her. Sort of a case of oneitus (but I've started trying to seek other women and fuck around) but I love her a lot.

However I feel like I've fucked up over the past few months by being a beta bitch and giving her some control.

I've been quite honest about my past relationship and sexual partners which I really regret too... and I wonder if she's feeling very comfortable with me in a leash... but also sense that she's getting a bit bored of everything sometimes

I've been trying to flip it and be more alpha (doesn't come naturally to me at all) but I either end up being an asshole, being passive aggressive to her or playing childish mind games.

These strategies are obviously not working, but I don't know what to do