One of the most infuriating constructs and logical fallacies that I come across while perusing feminist articles is the dreaded straw man.

"MRM are rape apologists and and to be able to rape without fear" "These men want to keep women barefoot and pregnant" and so on.

This system has been so pervasive and so effective at demonizing MR in general, that I frequently feel that it has grown to define our very movement in the public eye. I would go so far as to call it a series of false flag attacks, as their word is taken as gospel as if it were a sworn testimony of the Patriarchy.

So, in the face of "they want..." and "they say..."'s that are invariably followed by horrible and false statements, how can we more effectively say "No. That is not true."? I pose this as an open question. On an individual level, it seems impossible to refute, because you, personally, can't speak for "THE MEN" who believe that (in your opponent's mind). (Unless, that is, you do say something mean, in which case, that becomes the universal statement of MEN.)

Which brings me to part 2. I'm distressed that I'm seeing the same tactics coming from our side. Morally, I find this distressing, but on a more practical side, it simply doesn't work for us the way it does for them. A feminist saying "Those MEN want to keep me barefoot and pregnant" conjures up the image of a revolutionary. A MRA saying "Those WOMEN want to see men go extinct" seems closer to a lunatic in a tin foil hat. No, it's not fair, but that's the way it is.