Why Do We Fight When Our Partner Returns From a Trip?

MattyAnon · 2019-03-02T17:21:07+00:00

"Survival mode" is how women describe those days, and sometimes weeks, by themselves, with the husband away. They talk of "holding the fort". Highly educated women feel like they are literally battling for their survival. Biologically, they are

This is an indication of how dependent women are on men, and she's overlooking all the single mothers that "don't need no man" and all the men who not only survive by themselves but do so after losing all their net worth and are still paying child support, alimony and dealing with a legal system biased against them at every stage.

The fact that she feels entitled to be cold, distant and abusive on his return shows how weak the man is being. He's tolerated her behaviour and thus it continues. u/aDrunkenWhaler has it right: the first time it happens you silently turn around and leave for a few days. She'll be happy as a lark the next time you get home from a trip.

centaursg · 2019-03-01T22:36:23+00:00

This seems interesting and goes with the RP principle - STFU if your partner throws you a fit.

red_philosopher · 2019-03-02T05:31:01+00:00

Attachment theory is really strong stuff. It takes ages to modify, even if you are acutely aware of it. It takes a lot of significant effort to rewire, but it can be done.

Ceeda · 2019-03-02T22:55:44+00:00

But when your partner comes home, unconscious fears are activated: You don't love me anymore, I am not lovable, and others are more interesting than I am.

Sounds a lot like projection.

Title	Why Do We Fight When Our Partner Returns From a Trip?
Author	centaursg
Upvotes	16
Comments	29
Date	March 1, 2019 10:35 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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