Crosspost "AITA for not warning a Tinder date about my weight?" from /r/AmItheAsshole:

I've been using Tinder for a few weeks now. My profile picture is a picture of me at the store that I used to work at. A customer came in with a pet pigeon and let the bird sit on my arm, and then I asked him to take the picture with my phone. I didn't use any filters. You can see me from my midriff up to the top of my head, but tbh I was wearing a sweater.

I am a 5'8, 162 lbs female, btw.

I met this guy on Tinder and we hit it off. He was really funny and we had some hobbies in common. We agreed to go on a date downtown, to look at pigeons, because he said that he also liked them. When we met he was completely different from how he was over chat. He didn't say anything to me on his own and just answered questions with simples yesses and nos. He seemed angry the whole time and left the date after about an hour, saying he was supposed to meet his friend.

I thought that maybe he was shy in real life, and texted him afterwards to thank him for the date and ask him if he had an omay time. He didn't reply for a few days but this morning I got this text:

just a headsup not everyone is into big girls, u should rly let guys know ahead of time so they dont get put on the spot. Just my advise. Hope u find what ur looking for, best wishes.

I feel really embarrassed after reading this text. I didn't mean to put anyone 'on the spot'. I know I'm not thin, but I'm also not that heavy. It never occurred to me that this was something I had to disclose before meeting someone. But I do remember reading some posts online where people were similarly disappointed that a date was bigger than they let on. Am I one of those deceptive dates? AITA?

Edit: everyone keeps asking me about the picture I uploaded and if it's from weird 'angles' and shit... no. I thought that was pretty obvious as I said before that a customer took the picture of me with his pet bird. I just put it up because people are always saying that 'action pictures' are better than posed ones and I like birds 🤷🏼‍♀️🐦

Otherwise I want to thank everyone for their input, even those that think I'm the asshole.

Posted by -Meera- | 12 February 2019 | Link