Is rp only for pickup and ltr? I have a dysfunctional family which I struggle to manage. I've read No More Mr Nice Guy and Superior Man and I'm appreciative if more advanced red pillers could help me with how to be less weak when I communicate with female family members. I have no idea how to deal with my mother and I'm surrounded by domineering women who readily undermine and gaslight me to suit their own agendas. They don't respond well to masculinity on the rare occasion that I dare show it, they are quick to laugh in my face. I react by self-abusing myself with my own internal putdowns, sometimes running away and I've been depressed all my life, I have no barriers against my mum or ltr or even grandmother. Lol even writing that makes me feel like the biggest pussy vagina ever, I need to change this whole thing fast because I'm trying to start a business but I'm too inadequate. I keep failing and letting clients down. Actually I wonder if I'm autistic because I can't seem to express my thoughts to people in disagreements without getting confused or anxious / butthurt. But then when I'm happy with positive people I have no socialising problems whatsoever, I have been the life and soul of the party many times.

Anyway about my mother, she was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and bipolar, there are also narcissistic traits sometimes she acts like a little needy child other times she's quite nasty. She is good at giving me advice and being on my side in life. It just seems to be at a price. My therapist explained there is a lot of enmeshment between us (single mum I have no siblings). I dare not break free from the enmeshment because she has had power over me, I've also found out of her spreading lies to friends and family about me, she twists stories and is good at making people feel sorry for her. These people (one is a white knight family friend) tell me I should go and help my mum.

For instance the most recent time I was planning my graduation day, my mum wanted to bring her friend with her and I told her no, that the ceremony was for family only. The real reason was because her friend allows her to behave badly and I didn't want her to act like this infront of my other family members on my dad's side. I tried to hold my ground on my wants for once as it was my special day. Her reaction was to send volatile SMS and said in that case if I don't let her friend come with her she would not come out for a meal. She said derogetory things to me by message.. I guess to break me down so that I would give in. But I didn't. For the first time I actually gave her silence. But I felt hurt and angry that my own mother could be undermining. She had also tried to join the pub later on after graduatuon with my friends as she knew a couple of them well but I said no to that too, I didn't want her drinking + attention seeking with my me and my mates. I re-contacted with her recently as though nothing had happened but I kept my boundaries up not giving her too much knowledge about my life.

To add to this her mother (my grandmother) called me to say how angry she was with me that I was not compassionate enough, my Mum had been crying and upset that she wasn't invited to the graduation at all- lie- the pub with my mates was after the graduation. It was only her friend who wasn't allowed. Grandmother said I had changed and lost my compassion for other people's feelings(I could have been coming across as selfish since starting red pill?) She said my mum needed me. This made me feel like shite. Numb. Depressed worthless. I didn't tell my nan about the messages because I don't want to add to the drama. As most people do own grandma chose to believe her lies and didn't ask my reasons for the silence.

Finally there is a situation with my LTR co-hab big mistake living together I have been weakened further, she ticks all green flags apart from a huge red which is her passive beta dad who lives in his own world let's her get away with downtalking him, she leads him and she's had no feminine input (her mum committed suicide).

I have no sense of identity, I used to be suicidal but I got far past that with gym and rp is definitely helping and so did a year of therapy. but I haven't yet been able to manage these 3 women. It seems I am equally dependant on them when they are being good to me.

I wonder if there is a way I can communicate better with narcisisstic family members or should I cut out my mum for good? I'm 27 btw. She once tried to commit suicide when I moved to Spain...