In 2021 I was leaving my old Uni and met a girl, it was dusk and she was still visible. I was just getting back into dating and used a technique that haunts me now.

I called her by a random name to try and get her attention. I told her she wasn’t blank name but you sorta remind me of my friend blank. Coincidentally the random name I chose was her government name (she goes by the short version). I chucked it up to chance but She seemed curious enough and was seemed interested in talking a little bit about ourselves. For like 15 minutes we were talking about this and that. She was wearing a heavy looking backpack and told her, she can set it down if she’d like, she said no it’s not that bad and continued to talk. I was playful the entire time and gestured for a hug like just open my arms. She reciprocated and came in to me for a hug.

Then the conversation continued about possible going on food date and i asking her about the food she likes. When the conversation got a little stale I asked her if she liked another hug and she said yes🤦🏾. But this time I went for carry hug and lifted her by the thighs. She was giggling and laughing the whole time so obviously I thought she was into me.

She said she had to go to her car so I asked if she’d like me to walk her to her car to continue out boring convo. She said yes.

While we were walking to her car this old lady approached us asking for directions on campus for a massage seminar and I didn’t know but she did, so she told me to she’d direct her. They stepped maybe a couple yards away, then she came back to me nonchalantly and we were talking about how we could go for massage but in a joking way.

I walked her to her car and was talking to her about what she likes to do she says she’s a yoga instructor and so I thought she might also like to dance, so I suggested we go dancing another night. She replied with “ but I don’t know how to dance 🤷‍♀️ “ I said il teach you, then extended my hand, spinned her around a bit and she was giggling I leaned in for a kiss. She steps back and says she can’t, I’m engaged. I say “ Really how old are you” she says 29. I was kinda shocked 😳, why would she talk to a stranger if your not interested or single.

I asked abit about her relationship and she didn’t seem to be lying so I ended it at “It was nice meeting, and maybe we should exchange contacts in case the engagement does work out.” She says sure and hands me her phone.

I stupidly put my name, a photo of my self for her to remember( cause I always forget people I meet) and I was about to put my number but I stopped caring and handed her phone back no number.

Earlier this year I get told that I have a warrant out for my arrest. And basically she said I SA’d her forced against her car, took her phone the whole 9 yards. I didn’t talk to any cops and they dont even have video I was even there. A “true he said she said”. I’m in engineering school now and feel like my life’s over before it even began. After further investigation me and my lawyer found out that she’s been SA’d before but under Canadian law we can’t find out what happened.

I truly think she’s a broken girl that really wants to hurt men. Black widow style. My lawyer said I can always settle for simple assault but even that would ruin me. I’m a black man in white Canada and this is summary so no jury is gonna be involved just a judge so I’m extra scared of that.

How strong of case do I have? No CCTV, she could have left with the massage lady if she felt “in danger” and she consented to every physical touch.

I’m done with daygame