After a year of research, putting it off and changing my mind I finally took the first steps in taking my kids mother to court. This is also after trying for months to get her to fill out joint custody which she tip toed around until she just refused.

We are unmarried and have no previous court orders. So we are in the wild west. She and i can literally do what we want when we want with the kids. All I want is for everything to be fair and split down the middle and good for the kids. All she wants is to do whatever the hell she wants when she wants and if anything gets in the way she uses the kids as ammo.

Shes the most unempathetic narsisst ive met by a Long shot. She coerces, alientes, mentally abuses and kidnapps the kids. Its become almost normal. She lied about having a job to change our schedules. Has tried stealing money from me. Tells me im a danger to the kids to keep them from me until she is ready to go out and party. In that case she tells me I dont love the kids if i dont take them. That she is giving me a second chance for the 100000th time.

I can go on and on and on. Ive finally had enough. Well ive had enough for a long time. But like an idiot I tried desperately to play nice and just deal with it. I told her I wanted to talk about putting the oldest into pre K in my county. (We live in two different cities in differnt counties about 40 minutes apart) she said okay we can talk about it.

Two days later she calls me and tells me she enrolled him in pre k in her city. She tells me the new schedule when his school starts will be Monday through Friday for her and Saturday through Sunday for me. She then pointed out that I will get no weekends without the kids and she will have all the weekends to go out and be with friends. The woman's insane. But she made a very big decision by herself and after I mentioned doing it.

So im turning in all the paperwork starting with the fee waiver. Because while momma doesnt work or have her own place or anything, her momma buys her whatever she wants. But im broke pay bills and rent.

So I guess a few problems I have. I wont be able to afford a lawyer, what can I do? While dating she called the cops on me and falsely accused me of domestic violence. I was taken to jail just after she took my cards and cash and gave my empty wallet to the police saying i almost forgot it. Anyways ive never really dealt with court and didnt know what to do. So after a couple of deals i finally just plead guilty to misdemeanor coersion. How bad is the old coersion charge going to affect me? Any other advice or anything would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!!