I’m a 30 year old woman who wants kids. I’m turning 31 in 3 months. I didn’t date at all until I was 28/29 which I realize now was a HUGE mistake, so I have very little relationship experience. I was on dating apps for about 1.5 years and found the process difficult. It was hard to find men I connected with and my limited experience made things difficult.

I’ve been dating a guy for several months now. I like him in a lot of ways - he’s reliable, smart, loyal, also wants kids. But I’m not totally sure if I’m in love with him - we have very different interests and in some ways our personalities are opposite. Still, I’ve enjoyed being with him.

But I’m freaking out because I genuinely don’t know if he is the guy I want to spend my life with. I’m worried that if I spend more time with him, I will lose precious dating time if he turns out not to be right for me. I feel like my time to find a partner is running out quickly, especially as I know that many men who want kids won’t consider women in their mid thirties so realistically I only have two years max to find the “right” guy.

I don’t want to break up with the guy I’m dating and I do like him. I’m just terrified he will turn out not to be “the one” and I will have wasted both of our time. I have so little romantic experience that I don’t genuinely don’t know what to do