Cold-approach girls keep saying that they want to get to know me first before we “date,” what am I doing wrong?

zuhbooze · 2018-01-31T05:58:57+00:00

Stop telling them what you want, show them. Suggest a Meetup, not an "I want to date you".

[deleted] · 2018-01-31T06:02:14+00:00

You should probably tell your mom to talk to their mom. That way their mom could explain to them that your mom said you're a really nice guy and they should date you. Works every time!

vandaalen · 2018-01-31T05:59:39+00:00

Four? Come back after four hundred.

[deleted] · 2018-01-31T14:57:47+00:00

The fact you’re cold approaching means you’re putting yourself into a position to succeed. Don’t stop doing it. In fact, set a goal per day. It’s all about numbers.

Cold approach is exactly what it implies, a cold sell. The success rate is going to be lower than from your social circle. You’re going to get more flakes. Why? Lack of comfort and social proof.

Keep talking to as many women as possible. Keep getting better.

DavidAlanQueer · 2018-01-31T06:11:40+00:00

Don't ask them to commit to a date. Go for coffee. It's quick and a perfect opportunity to get to know them a little more intimately.

This is what they're looking for. If all goes well, then you can set up a real date after the ice has been broken and she's more comfortable with you.

LordThunderbolt · 2018-01-31T18:25:05+00:00

Stop texting back and forth dude. You cold approach, set up a date, get the number, stay radio silent, then you go to date whenever that is. Texting isn't for conversations.

devilkingx2 · 2018-01-31T23:46:52+00:00

either you're asking them on dates that are too formal (go for netflix n chill over dinner and a movie or your cousin's wedding) or not talking to them long enough beforehand (you can't always just go "hi""hi" "lets get coffee tomorrow at noon" )

moontripper1246 · 2018-01-31T06:09:35+00:00

Whip your dick out instead of asking them out.

Title	Cold-approach girls keep saying that they want to get to know me first before we “date,” what am I doing wrong?
Author	AlleghanyQuarrytit
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	January 31, 2018 5:48 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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