Your wife does not want to fuck someone they have to validate all the time.

All of these victim puke bitchy stories and pointing fingers at every little thing your wife does wrong without owning how the fuck you got their in the first place, is because you built up your whole reality around the desperate need for validation from your wife. If she knows that you are dependent on her for that validation in how you fuck, how much money you make, what car you drive, girls flirting with you, how big your muscles are - it doesn’t matter how good you get at any of those things, she won’t live in your frame for a second if she knows her not acknowledging it can make it all come crashing down.

This is why they emotionally cheat with other guys, or defy your boundaries, even though you’re on here saying “oh I swallowed the pill 3 months ago and I STFU, but I guess I still get mad when she rejects me or doesn’t acknowledge that I cleaned the whole house”. Get the fuck out of her frame and into yours. Try rewriting every story without including “she” or “her” and just talk about what you own and see what happens.

All you need to do is read the sidebar until your eyes bleed, read this post, and the works of David Schnarch to understand sex in a marriage. This subreddit will be eradicated if everyone does that.