I am mentally and financially drained! and exhausted!
We have no communication order except OFW! her problem is that she argue a lot and don't let anything pass! like today I picked up the kids 5 minute late and she had to send me a message calling me out! I never do that kind of shit to her.
She just like to argue instead of fostering anything healthy! we agreed that the kids call the other parent between 7-8 pm and the hosting parent should ensure those calls are made! she never really respected that time frame and I have no issue as I understand life gets in between. I also sometimes miss the time window however every time I do she message me to document that I didn't respect the time window although I invited her to call them herself if she would like but she don't want to do that to facilitate communication but rather she just want to argue non stop!
Honestly I moved on from her, however her behavior is having a major impact on my mental health! every time she send me a message and see her name popping, my heart start beating and I get headache, not like figuratively, I get severe headaches and need to take Advil and now my primary care physician prescribed me special medication for migraine. never had those issues before.
In addition to that, she keep filing contempt over mundane things, things that could be resolved very easily, she would file contempt, she just wants to argue, paying lawyer fee is so expensive and I spent over 100k playing this game. the court don't wanna reward me any legal fee although all her contempts were dismissed. my lawyer says it's not worth it wasting our time with the court recovering legal fee because it will cost more and we will still not get any legal fee rewarded.
I am thinking to fire my lawyer as I cannot afford her and learn how to file myself and defend myself, so this way I can defend myself and also keep filing contempt against her so it become cost prohibitive and she stop. it is disappointing that the court entertain this kind of behavior and I am shocked how they don't expect people not to go nut and do stupid shit!
for those who took the the route of defending themselves. is it worth it? since custody and all shit is over, do I need a lawyer to defend those contempt cases? I am not sure how to deal with my lawyer as I am sure I would need her in certain things.
also where can I learn about court procedures on how to file and do things properly
thank you for all advise
