Whats up y'all. I am located in Houston, Texas. My wife requested a divorce on Feb, 9th. I have so many questions.

I have undergone extensive therapy for the last 8 years. Recovering from alcohol for the past 4 years and battling my mental health diagnoses. It's been a long road. I have been in school since Aug of 2019. my wife and I met back in 2011 and dated off and on until we got married in 2017. Our relationship has never been stable, to say the least. I think at this point, she and I are okay with the divorce. we have a sense of inner peace knowing we gave it our absolute hardest effort. We have been to marriage counseling three times.

I have undergone extensive therapy for the last 8 years. Recovering from alcohol for the past 4 years and battling my mental health diagnoses. It's been a long road. I have been in school since Aug of 2019. my wife and I met back in 2011 and dated off and on until we got married in 2017. Our relationship has never been stable, to say the least. I think at this point, she and I are okay with the divorce. we have a sense of inner peace knowing we gave it our absolute hardest effort. We have been to marriage counseling three times. battled and fought to stay together. Being in recovery, I understand the power of healing. My wife has been going to therapy since Oct of 2023. Deep down, I knew a divorce was possible with her starting her healing journey. The threat of divorce has been prevalent in the last three semesters especially. For me which is why, I am okay with letting go. I am unsure if I would have ever let our marriage go. I love my kids, which at the very least was why i was willing to stay. With their young age, it has been hard not to see them every day. Since I moved out, I can feel reverting to my old self. I attempted suicide back in Oct of 2018, I shot myself with a .45 ACP. Since moving out, I have been battling. I will never drink alcohol again because it almost guaranteed death for me. I feel my addictive personality coming out in the form of women. I know I shouldn't see any new women but I find myself wanting to be with them, to fill the void of my wife. anyways.

She and I want the best for each other. We both love each other. Frankly, I am unsure if she even wants a divorce. She said she was still willing to support me through school. I think we have a good relationship. I have been asking how i can support her through this time.

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Questions:

  1. She and I are both loving people, she wants to support me and I want to support her. I hear all the horror stories that divorce brings, has anyone had a relatively "positive" divorce experience?
  2. Financially, do we even have enough money for a divorce? we have like 8k in cash.
  3. Does anyone have recommendations for a lawyer in the Houston area?
  4. What are some questions that I should be thinking about?
  5. I know VA money is not considered marital property, does that mean I can move all VA money into another account?
  6. What typically happens to houses?
  7. How does the division of debt work?
  8. As i mentioned i love my kids and i will always be a present father, I suppose custody will be 50/50 will I have to pay child support?

Thank y'all for any support.