Hey y’all,

I am a second generation Indian guy (early 20s, slightly on the spectrum, born/raised in California) and I live in the South Bay. I have been going to San Jose bars a good amount. I feel the bar scene in San Jose is more dead relative to other major cities but there are defo some fun spots there. So far I havn’t been very successful. I have been able to dance, make out, get numbers, and make friends decently there, but havn’t really “pulled” as yet. I’d say I’m an ambivert/decent conversationalist and have definitely been working on my charisma, humor, style (hair and clothes), and fitness since I started going out. I am mostly attracted to east asian and white girls.

I work with all older people and have a mostly introverted male friend group (I am not in full time school anymore). I was banned from a lot of apps LOL. I feel the bar/club scene is my best shot at meeting people.

Has anyone here had any success pulling in Downtown San Jose bars?

Any advice in general or on game y’all would have?

What bars do you guys recommend (Those who have been successful, live in SJ, or go to San Jose bars a lot)?