I meet alot of women by going out to bars/clubs, gym etc. But most of the time it leads to nothing because I am a ghost online. Most women want to seem to have some point of reference to who they are talking to so when a relatively attractive, fit and successful guy like me does not have social media. I feel like things fizzle out and it's impossible to even get them to reply back.

I have pretty bad social anxiety when it comes to having an online presence. Even when I post something on snapchat I'm tense the whole time I have a story, constantly wondering what people thinking about me and obsessively checking the view count.

I used to the same when I had Facebook and it would litterally hurt my self esteem if I did not get enough likes. ( I never did lol my most liked post was 20 people for a thousand friend and half of them were family/friend). Also it dosnt mesh with my genuine beleive that social media is a waste of time and full of self obsessed delusional people.

So How do I get over the fear of an online presence. It's the fact that I can't control what people will think of me that scares me. My whole life I been Conditioned to think there something wrong with me so I immediately assume people will see right through me that if I post online.