Maybe not all guys know that but that mindset is one of the most attractive and useful mindsets to have at the same time but it usually only comes when you can get not just one but multiple girls and girls start to have a crush on you then you might start to believe that but what if you can have it before you had any dating success? Sounds a bit salesy but I swear I'm don't tryna advertise anything

I had a new realization lately. How I had an abundant I dont need anyone mindset while I was a virgin.

It's not about having that many girls that amount makes you happy it's being already happy in your own world. It's a common misconception that just having your life together and girls gonna come naturally with it but it's not really how it works then how could it work? A bit of background story when I started to skate (I had to stop for a while because of injuries but anyway) I wouldn't say that I was kinda obsessed with it but I watched tutorials, tried tricks, cruised around all alone ofc and it was so much fun, just imagine that you're still a child and next day is Christmas so you're excited about what you gonna get, kinda the same feeling like you're a child again and that joy and excitement that makes kids to kids and fades away over the years but what if I say it doesn't have to be that way. What if you can have a hobby and be excited about it every single day how much fun is it going to be and how can you make your skills better day by day or even better a lifestyle that you truly love, enjoy, and be excited about. Then getting girls is not about achieving something great that makes you happy, you're happy already so the girls are just another part of something that already exists inside you. Then you progress you can do even harder things than you ever could imagine and you can look back on how far was that road you made it, I sometimes look back on how I used to be and who I am now and I'm pretty proud of that, that's what true self-confidence is so it makes you realize how good can you become, wides out your imagination what possible and now you have it all. So you don't need any girls to be your other side, to be the missing piece of you, you're already a whole with girls and without girls so you don't have to be any worry about tryna sell yourself, tryna impress girls to like you or make you seem more than what you are. you're already all fine and if the girl likes it it's fine, if she doesn't it's her loss, not yours so you can finally select on the girl's personality and not based on how hot she is and having a game to really have multiple options to the top of that. It really makes your mentality unbeatable. It's a bit of self-improvement, lifestyle, and self-love combined together but if it worked out for me might work out for others too