So here goes.

Mid 30s, have moved around a lot. Lived in a few states because of the military, been in a few coed leagues, went to a few colleges, few different gyms, did some travel, etc. Anytime i get assigned a new base, its almost visible seeing some girls swoon. It just happened again this past week. Two in the same room. I could tell right off the bat one was definitely in to it. I am not a 9-10 physically. Used to be about a 7 or maybe still am. This kind of behavior goes back a good 10 years.

Any new thing i start going to say if its a coed sport and especially back when i was in college, it seemed like id get flirted with a lot. Actually just happened like 3 weeks ago at the pool. In college I got approached by a couple 9s but i was too autistic to know what to do.

If i go to a new gym, yep, you can bet i get some looks day one. Ffs ill probably get a smile or two just walking thru the parking lot. But here's the thing - I am FA as Fuuuuuccccccccccccckkkkkk.

Like no gf now, havent had one for seven years. Get ghosted constantly, stood up, etc. but here's the other thing - you know all these girls that flirt day one...? Yeah by day 2-3 its like night and day. After a few weeks at the latest, their behavior's totally different.

what would cause this.....? what would make a guy get looks, get flirted with day one at like half of the new jobs / activities / gyms he goes to but then have it all dissipate within a month or even a week...?

could it be im not making moves soon enough, and so they go cold bc i dont do something..? what do you all think it could be...?