I was out with my friends, friend 1 and friend 2 (3 of us in total, the other two were 2 inches taller). They’re very good at game, I’m not. But I still get dates from OLD etc and sometimes have fwb.

I was pretty miserable from the morning (jacked off five times that morning). Then when I went out, I (probably correctly) assumed that girls were approaching to talk to my friends, and were only talking to me out of politeness in the group.

Situation 1: We are at the first bar and a girl says to us “there are 3 hen parties here so we are all looking for some penis”. She had her arm around my two friends and looked at me when she said that. I thought she was just talking to my other two friends instead of me so I just sat by the bar and drank water and let my other friends talk to the girls.

Situation 2: So one girl approaches and introduces her single friend - Friend 1 has a gf, and friend 2 isn’t interested, so friend 1 points to me and says that I’m single. I didn’t want the girls to say something like “ew not that friend” or something similar, so as soon as he pointed to me, I (loudly) just told him to “leave me out of this” to spare myself the rejection.

Situation 3: A similar thing happened when I was getting a glass of water at the bar - the bartender takes my order and the girl next to me says “hey I was here first”. The bartender then says “c’mon let the guy have his water”. I then bluntly tell the girl that “it’s just water relax” and walk away.

I am a 5’9 guy, wearing shoes that make me 5’10. I am well dressed/groomed, and I have a nice body too. Aka, I have looksmaxxed. So it’s not like I would come across as a slob or unkempt.

Lessons learned:

Situation 1: Nothing to learn from this, they were likely just looking to bed my other two friends but had to talk to me as well so that it wouldn’t look rude.

Situation 2: The girl that was single and looking for someone probably felt very bad when I said “leave me out of this”, because it can come across as a very brutal rejection. I wasn’t rejecting her, but just didn’t want her to judge me and reject me so I didn’t want to be involved. Then again, she might have just called me ugly if I spoke to her so maybe I just beat her to the punch.

Situation 3: A “funner” version of me would have just laughed and said “I’m thirsty” in a playful way, but I think I got it into my head that the woman next to me was pissed off because I got my drink before her, so I just wanted her to fuck off. Looking back, she probably was pissed off and looked at me like a weak male who she can boss around.