Hi everyone, so little introduction about me i’ve been a hugless, kissless 26 old year virgin till new years.I’m an indian who lives in canada but this happened in india.I also have psoriasis which if you know about it is not attractive

 Anyway my personality is similar to the nice guy in the book ‘no more mr nice guy’. So all my life i’ve never hit on women because I thought i was not worth it and also i’ve realized that i’m a dishonest person( mostly about my intentions)  Everything started for me when i moved to a new house in January 2021. I had this incredible housemate who was beautiful, intelligent and we vibed a lot. She was the first person that i genuinely felt that i can live with all my life. I was not in a good place mentally and she shared  her story about her struggles which helped me a lot and made me feel less lonely. Anyway as some of you may know where this is heading I developed a serious case oneitis for her. Which obviously led her distancing herself from me.   I thought i was the worst person ever in this world because of that. I did a lot of things for her to like me back which when I think back make me cringe. I knew she was not interested but could not accept it. A year passed like that and at the end i moved cities and finally almost let my feelings for her go.   So last year while my career was going no where and me working a minimum wage job, I finally got fed up and went to a doctor. I got diagnosed with depression and adhd. Adhd medication helped me a lot. I quit my job in walmart and worked as a cook (which i always wanted to do)and as host at the same place because i was afraid of talking to people( that job helped a lot).  Anyway coming to the main point I promised myself that i would not be a virgin anymore and that i will be honest about my feelings. I came to india for vacation and immediately installed bumble. I got a number of matches and started texting them. I suck at texting but decided I decided am going text whatever i feel like irrespective of what the other person feels.

And to my shock it worked. I hit of with two people. One was a doctor and other is a writer. I was honest with the doctor from the beginning and told her my story when it came up in our conversation. She liked me irrespective of all my baggage and i went to her house after our first date and well i go to her house regularly now and i’m still in contact with the writer but could not meet her because she is recovering from covid.

I know there’s a barge of text here and I didn’t come to the main point yet but that’s my point here. I didn’t do anything special. I don’t have an awesome body, i changed my hair style and just started wearing clothes that are little better fitting but that’s it( and i have freaking psoriasis). I just didn’t care anymore. I started being myself and being honest about my intentions and things worked out. I always thought i had to have everything perfect for women to like me but i was wrong. I just had to be myself.

I just wanted to post this because I thought I would be one the posters of r/foreveralone but if things changed for me then it can change for anyone.

Also thank you to all the people who put so much effort in creating posts which help people like me.