Hey Guys,

So I want to talk a little bit about interest signals and closing. And share an example of some I got today.

But first, this is something I think most guys have no idea how to do and consequently miss out on a lot of opportunity. Women will give you "interest signals" when they are expressing interest in you - obviously. But, many times I believe us men miss these as they will most likely be covert and indirect. Women flirt differently than we do and are different to read.

I see on these threads, so much, that woman say things like:

- Why do guys only want sex

- He was too forward with touching me so I ghosted him

- He made me uncomfortable and said he wanted to have sex with me right away

Learning to read interest signals will help you avoid all of this. If you want a relationship this is important because you need to be able to escalate when she is ready. If you want to get laid, this is also important because you need to escalate when she is ready. Women have a different ystem in place when it comes to attraction than we do. They MUST feel comfortable both physically and emotionally, feel understood, feel listened to, etc.

So, if you can learn to read interest signals, you can by pass most of this stuff where women ghost you for being too sexual or too forward. If a woman tells you "I want to take it slow, and I'm not ready for sex." This means she is not comfortable enough with you yet for sex. All you need to do is acknowledge this, let her know you heard her, be respectful and watch for interest signals. It does not mean she is a prude, it does not mean she doesn't want to have sex, it means she is just not comfortable yet. You don't have to ghost her or move on another one - if you watch and listen, you can still get laid.

See, what men seem to miss is that by escalating properly when interest signals are shown, if you can hit them correctly, you will get laid. By letting the woman lead and by responding to her both physically and emotionally, she will feel comfortable and in control. Then, it is just a matter of time until you guys are in bed. By letting her LEAD you, you won't get shut down nearly as much.

So here is my example from today:

(15-20 minutes of chatting on a social media app, she randomly messaged me last night)

Her: So what kind of phone do you have?

Me: I have an iPhone because I'm not a peasant

Me: I'm kidding, I'm not that judge-y

Her: Cool, me too

Me: Are you going to ask me for my number?

Her: Yes

Me: 000-000-0000 (My number)

Her: Here is mine 000-000-0000

*I text her*

*She calls me*

While we were talking she mentioned we will both be in the same state next week. (we both travel for work). So, she called me and mentioned we would be in the same state. These are two more interest signals.

See, I bet you, most guys would take the "what kind of phone do you have" and respond with "I have x type of phone, what kind of phone do you have? Oh thats cool, do you like it?" and continue on with dumb conversation until the convo fizzles.

Notice how I also said "Are you going to ask me for my number?". This shows I read through the lines and I know what she wants and is intending to do. She said "yes" but still hasn't given me her number. So, I gave her mine first. I was leading the conversation, but she initiated and I reciprocated knowing what she wanted.

No one REALLY wants to talk about the good and bad qualities of their phone...but women frequently don't take charge, so it is up to you to LISTEN and WATCH for what they are really saying. When a woman IS direct and says exactly what she wants, you need to listen and act on it immediately. Learn to read between the lines and hear what is really going on. Remember, it's a dance not a battle.

That is my soapbox for today.