Im currently seeing a girl who Im starting to become emotionally invested in. She wants an (exclusive) LTR and I told her I need some time. At the moment shes fine with just being my main girl, and accepting of the fact that I might be smashing girls on the side. Shes pretty cool and we have great chemistry. I can see her being my gf. Problem is some red flags:

  • She has numerous Tats and some piercings (i like them, but rp doesnt - not sure what to make of that)

  • She likes to go clubbing and drinking (even though she doesnt do it much - very busy job) - this sucks since I dont

  • She ocassionaly dresses slutty and behaves slutty around me (which is nice obv), but how do I screen how she behaves when im not around?

Now according to traditional RP theory, mate guarding is a big no-no. But a recent post thatseems to advocate the opposite in a LTR scenario, makes a lot of sense.

Heres the current situation: Before we started getting more serious, she bought a ticket to some festival that happens in a month to go with a female friend of hers, and invited me to come with. I probably wont.

Now, since considering her to be my gf: i would never be fine with my gf going alone to a festival. And since im emotionally invested in her, Id rather her not go regardless.

My thoughts were to establish some relationship ground rules the next time she brings up the topic, specifically No clubbing,partying,festivals,getting drunk, taking drugs without me being around

Would that be considered too strong mateguarding or a proper exercise of control? How would you frame it?

What are your thoughts in general about my situation wrt her red flags, how can I screen if these are serious or minor?