YOU GOTTA HAVE YOUR OWN ‘VERSION’ OF GAME! It’s gotta be said!

I’ve come upon the realization that knowing the game - the right moves at the right times - don’t help if you have not built up confidence from everyday life. The difference between copying something and trying to say it like following a recipe; versus taking advice and incorporating it with your own approach, using your own charm while also taking the advice.

The reason I share my thoughts on this, is to bring awareness on a thing that has made me freeze up while I’ve been doing pretty good: I meet more and more girls —> I get laid with an 8 and check off a box I’ve wanted to check off for long —> Now I somehow expect to get laid all the time as long as I pull perfect game —> I go out, pressured and hellbent on doing it perfectly, plus I expect to get laid tonite —> I end up forgetting my own confidence and to have fun; I stay impatient, and I don’t have the ‘fun’ element that makes your conversation so interesting —> Now you’re left with a cold and reserved approacher who is frozen and too scared to say the wrong thing, so he keeps getting in his own way, and cannot just relax during conversation, the urge to pull away increases by the second and this screws you whether you give up or not.* *I gotta mention, that this might just be me; but I’d end up beating the f out of myself (mentally) after such event. This is the thing you gotta avoid.

If you find yourself in this situation; you should focus alone on the game that makes sense to you (learned game or “incorporated” game), lower your expectations to just have fun, see what happens, and call it a night when you feeling it’s time to do so (not quitting out of fear or smth, but because you’re actually too tired to game). Game has to be fun for it to work; otherwise you’ll feel like shit.

Therefore: Focus on having fun in life and going out (eg without getting hammered), and develop your own understanding of game - your own moves, your own rules, etc - in accordance with experiences and advice that has worked/could work, and take it from there.