Travel back to 2017/18 I first stumbled on self-improvement and dating advice for men, I soaked this information up like a sponge and implemented ways to better myself, found a new job, started working out, more of an active social life. Over time and a lot of dedication I started to see exponential improvement in both my dating and normal life. My carefree attitude pushed me into levels of confidence that I’d never experienced before. Instead of actively seeking women id like to date or fuck I just did me. I slept with more women in this period of time than ever before in my life. Its no secret that a confident carefree attitude attracts women. Fast forward to the present date I slowly fell back into laziness, I actually lost my job due to cuts and had to transition into something I previously did.

At that time, I was in great shape and enjoyed my life but after becoming COMFORTABLE again in a job role I slowly started to slip. The people that surrounded me have a very peculiar mindset on life and slowly over time I started to adapt these mindsets without even realising. COVID hit and I was in lockdown for 2 months, I became a lazy piece of shit that ate stupid amounts of fast food and hardly done anything with myself except play video games and eat. As lockdown started to come to a close id gained 4 stone in additional weight, I had no real motivation to go out and get at it. It started to show with women as well, I went from dating multiple women in 2 years to getting left on read.

The whole point of me sharing this about myself is to highlight that you can never stop growing, the moment you stop growing is the moment you hit a rapid decline, what you have worked so hard for over the years becomes undone in a matter of months and before you know it your back to square one. You should constantly be focusing on improving yourself in every aspect of your life. I’m not a huge fan of social media and rarely post anything on there except some funny shit I might have seen and I was crushing it with women. Its like you give off this energy that screams beta the minute you strike up a conversation with a girl.

I’d like to also touch on the mindset aspect of life. I’m sure Dale Carnegie said in his book be careful who you surround yourself with. I didn’t actually realise how fucking true this was, I have the massive don’t give a fuck attitude I’ve always been like it, I don’t care how’s other perceive me its up to them if they like me or not. I’m 100% honest with my words regardless if they hurt or not. Since I started working for a company in a different trade, I noticed my mindset was slowly being toxified by others negative mindsets. Narcissistic/negative personality had me buying into their reality when I should have been running for the hills.

TLDR; Be true to yourself, careful who you surround yourself with and never stop growing or you end up like me a lazy piece of shit with no motivation or direction.

Oh, and this is not me asking for help I already hit that fork in the road and made the right choice to get after it again, this is me trying to help another individual not make the same mistake.