Picking up girls in bars and clubs? Make sure you entertain her friends

So pretty much every guy has found himself in a club trying to pick up a girl at some point. But for some freaking annoying reason, the girl you want is never on her own is she? She’s always flanked by a group of friends who seem hell bent on sticking to her sexy butt like glue and never giving you an opening to approach her directly.

So after circling the group about 16 times and downing 4 glasses of Jack Daniels and coke for Dutch courage you eventually man up and make a beeline for the girl you like. You head over there fuelled with liquid confidence and run the absolute God Damn best game of your life. You’re in the zone, the words are flowing, your energy is strong, powerful and masculine; and more importantly your target is absolutely loving it. It’s like every word that comes out of your mouth flows into her ears like auditory butter and you can feel her melting right in front of you.

It’s going well. In fact it’s going great. You’re getting somewhere with this girl and it’s only a matter of time before something physical happens. But then guess what? Something you didn’t see happening actually does happen and fucks your whole gameplan up. You see, her friends (who’ve been giving you evil looks this whole time) grab her arm and drag her away to the other side of the club. Sure you see her again throughout the night but when you do she’s weird. She doesn’t really want to talk to you anymore and like I said before your whole situation’s been fucked up.

But why?

It’s because you didn’t respect the fact that men and women approach bars and clubs differently. Loosely put, if two guys are out and one of them gets with a girl, the other one will happily respect it and just do his own thing.

But

If two girls go out and one of them gets with a guy, the girl who’s left on her own will most likely get bitter, resentful and jealous and like I said earlier, that’ll just fuck the whole situation up. But big groups of girls will still act the same way too. A group of 5 girls don’t wanna see 1 of them getting seduced by some player and then abandoning the group. They just don’t like it at all and will undermine you whenever they can.

Here’s what you need to do to drop the odds of that happening:

Engage the whole group

You probably don’t wanna hear this (and I get it because groups of pretty girls can be intimidating) but if you want a group of girls to be happy with you seducing one of them you need to win their trust first. You can’t just head straight for the one you like and ignore the rest, you have to talk to all of them.

Engage the group.

Be a fun and non-creepy guy.

Make them all laugh and feel good around you.

Crack jokes.

Tell stories.

Dance.

Ask how they all know each other.

Give a shit about the them.

You might notice that they’re a bit suspicious of you at first. Whenever you crack a joke they’ll probably look at each other to decide whether or not they’re going to laugh or tell you to fuck off. And maybe their body language will be guarded.

But if you keep being a cool guy who spreads good vibes and makes them laugh then at some point they’ll relax and let you ‘into the group’ (somewhere between 5 to 30 mins) and that’s when it’s safe to start isolating them of them and getting to know her physically.

Now don’t get me wrong, all of the above isn’t a hard and fast rule and it’s definitely possible to get with a girl in a club by talking to her directly and ignoring her friends, but it’s very risky.

To raise your odds of success you need to engage the whole group

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