So I keep reading and watching YouTube videos that say after you go out for a daygame/nightgame session you should reflect on your approaches and think about what you have learned. So I went out with a new wing today and think I learned a few things which I wrote about in my journal. I have copied and pasted my journal entry below and would like to get your guys feedback on my thoughts.

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What did I learn today?

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  1. Direct is good but need to have the right totality and attitude. Cannot be asking to talk to them but rather saying “I saw you walking and I thought you looked very nice, so I just wanted to say hi and talk with you” rather than “it is ok if I talk to you for a minute”? The tonality needs to convey flirty-ness. Like the one girl who was waiting for her boyfriend to come out of the bathroom. I didn’t even have to say why I was there exactly but she just kinda knew from the way I told her that I thought she looked very nice. Then I told her that I was flirting with her straight out after she said she had a boyfriend and that I thought she was very cute. I think she liked the interaction it actually probably made her day.

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  1. Girls who are waiting for someone are easy to approach since they’re standing in one place, but are bad to approach because they’re very preoccupied looking for their friend to show up which is usually their boyfriend at least half the time. It works sometimes thought so maybe should not completely avoid it because I did meet a few good girls who happened to be waiting at the train station for their friend.

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  1. Need a frame breaker for girls who are in a hurry to go somewhere as it seems like most of them are. Maybe going back to tonality and approach if I make it obvious why I’m stopping them then it will catch them off guard and they will want to talk with me more.

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  1. Going out with a wing really helps in doing approaches even if the wing is just watching me from far away. I feel the need to perform for my wing and not look like a pussy so I will stop girls I normally would not stop, in places where I would not stop them, where I would normally let her walk by me thinking if I should approach until ten seconds have passed by already and she is too far away for me to get up in front of her and stop her. So it makes me bolder to go do more approaches just to show off to my wing, which in turn breaks the barrier in my mind and once I’m on a roll its like doing approaches left and right and it feels so easy. When I go out by myself just making the first one or two approaches of the day seems so difficult to break through and I let a lot more opportunities slip by that when I’m with a wing I will go for just because I know we have a limited time and I need to get it done.

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  1. Point system. I lost track of how many approaches I did today (at least 7 that I talked to and opened a few more that didn’t hook). I previously would set a goal of 20 points for a day. Each open would be one point and each number close would be one point. So I would have to end up talking with around 15 girls and a few number closes to reach the 20 points. It also makes me do more approaches just to try to get points rather than thinking about it in my head should I approach this one? Shouldn’t I approach her?

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  1. If I’m closing a snapchat, wechat, LINE always make the girl add me and send me a message with her name. That way she will see the message I made her send me and know who I am (rather me adding her and then her having to accept the add request later which she probably won't. lost a good one today because of that). When getting a phone number/whatsapp close just hand her my phone and have her put her number in and send her a message before she walks away. Setup a shortcut on my home screen to add a new phone contact so I can easily go there when I need to give her the phone.

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  1. I really really need to talk more about meeting up for coffee and the Day 2. I’m just number closing by saying you seem cool lets be friends and then mentioning meeting up for coffee before I exit the interaction. My two options are first suggest meeting for coffee and then try to number close after she agrees to it (for the purpose of setting up the Day 2) which will probably get me more rejection and less number closes, or second option is get the number close then ask her “do you like drinking tea? what type of tea do you like?” then really hammer in the idea of meeting up for tea or coffee and try to get her schedule right then and there and try to setup the logistics before I exit the interaction (basically try to pressure her into setting a time and day to meet right then and there so its harder for her to flake later).

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So I have been out doing daygame with wings three times (with three different wings) and each time I have performed more and done way more approaches then when I’m out by myself and in my head making excuses not to approach. I need to go out with more wings and also get better at going out by myself and doing more approaches.

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TLDR: go out with wings more, go out more in general, number close with the purpose of meeting up again instead of “being friends”, go in direct with strong tonality which sets the frame of I’m here in front of you and you’re going to stop and talk with me.

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