Hi, this is the first article in a continuing series I will write discussing the principles of pickup, seduction, relationships, and general sociology. The articles will be detailed so even someone who is at a more advanced level will have something to learn or remember fresh. The articles will begin with the basics and progress to include advanced principles as well.

Today’s article will be on approach and why setups do not have to be perfect in order to achieve your goal. With that, I have a couple beginning concepts for everyone.

  1. You cannot expect to approach girls (especially intelligent and sexy ones) without being able to approach normal people in other contexts, ie, the cashier at the store or the old lady by the bus stop

  2. Girls are normal people, with normal lives, normal problems, and just like men are normal habitual creatures. While approach anxiety may always exist to an extent, remembering that women are normal human beings goes a long way.

  3. Pickup lines are stupid and create an atmosphere/feeling of deception. Unless your normal personality could be observed using pickup lines, you will be seen as fake by women. This also will cause you to look creepy as you are trying to be someone who you are really not (you are inherently good at being you and you are inherently bad at being anyone else). Coming off as genuine is very important even if your real personality does not match what you are doing.

  4. Practice makes perfect. Reading articles does not make you any more prepared for the actual interaction.

  5. It’s not what you say, but how you say it. Your words themselves are not nearly as important as the tone, expressions, and body language demonstrated when they are said. This deserves an article for itself and will get one shortly. Just remember for now that the best pickup line is only the best for someone who has mastered voice, tone, and body language. This combination of things can take years to acquire.

EXAMPLE: So, you see the girl of your dreams and you finally muster up the courage to talk to her. Armed with your full arsenal of freshly memorized lines and ideas, you nervously make your way over to the girl. You are nervous but you still manage to say hi and recite your pickup line without flaw. The girl appears to be uncomfortable and tries to dismiss you by saying she has a boyfriend (a common tactic that can easily mess with beginners who lack full confidence and persistence.) You begin to talk about the weather after the pickup line because you want to continue the dying conversation because awkward silence isn’t good. The girl walks away and you didn’t even get the number. How could the pickup line not work, the set was perfect just like I saw before? Sound familiar, well luckily for you, I have answers.

  1. If you can’t continue a simple conversation with anyone, then you need to improve your skills as a conversationalist. While this deserves another article for itself, for now, try to interact and engage in interactions with anyone possible regardless of factors. You will see a noticeable difference in you comfort levels when interacting with strangers.

  2. By approaching women differently from others you appear to be awkward and uncomfortable in the interactions. Girls can sense when someone is uncomfortable from a mile away.

  3. You need to start out small, you cannot approach a 10 if you cannot have normal conversations with people who are much less attractive. Male or female.

Final note on setups Normally, too much emphasis is placed on the setup by the beginners. Setups are not nearly as important as being able to interact with women in a normal manner through meaningful conversations. Beginners also tend to use setups as an excuse to not approach saying that the moment would not be right. A gun is much more effective in the hands of a Navy Seal than in the hands of a street thug. Pickup techniques are more effective in the hands of the experienced. Always approach and never blame the setup for a rejection. There are a million reasons for a interaction to not pan out correctly. No excuses. Being able to adapt in a complex way is key, it’s what separates us from many other organisms. This is the most basic starting except for accepting that rejection will happen. It is a numbers game, you need to have the number on your side.

Thank you for reading, and feel free to discuss any topics. I will continue to move on as long as it helps the community.