Sometimes I like to think I'm halfway decent at game. And then sometimes weekends like this happen. (Disclaimer: Fucked an old flame Friday night and spent 4+ hours in a pool with a new cutie Sunday during the day so all hope is not lost. Just like to keep my mind positive before we replay this brutal report.)

So I'm out Saturday night. Night is going well. Had a makeout in an earlier long set, was feeling really in the zone, giving lots of value, totally non needy and self amused, when I see an absolutely gorgeous girl walk through the door of the club. Perfect. I give her a few minutes to settle in with her friends and I approach, we chat for a little, lots of laughing and teasing, I open the friends, tell them dont worry she'll shoo me away in a few minutes, more laughing with her, at one point her friend goes "Idk whats going on she usually doesn't talk to guys for this long." aka we are doing big things here. I move her across the bar to grab some water, plenty of touching, putting my body close to hers and then taking it away, and she's eating it up. Lots of laughing and good emotions. Also at one point grabbed another dude and demanded he tell us if he thought we were a cute couple or not. Then had some nice inside joke between us where I hid her behind a pillar and watched while her friends freaked out because they couldn't see her for a moment. I had tried to move her on the dance floor earlier in the interaction but the club is like 80s themed and she wasn't really into that so at this point i tell her we are going to go outside, thought that would be a good idea, when like a bolt of lightening from the seduction gods Cindy Lauper's "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" comes on and I mean, please, who doesnt want to dance to that. Boom, pull her on the dance floor, we are jumping around and grinding and my white boy moves are on full display and she's loving it and we start kissing. Now most of my brain is screaming "Fuck yea just keep kissing her" but I was so in the zone that I was able to be like "No. Non needy. This isn't a big deal. Pull away in a fun way and keep singing the song" so I thought I was a straight up master PUA at this point. Song ends, I start to move her outside per the original plan when she looks down at her phone out of nowhere and goes "Oh my friends are leaving I need to go." Fuck no. These are the brutal logistics: She is staying 45 minutes away. They have hired a limo for the night but they only own it till 2 and its 1:15. I tried to just go with her (I guess I was planning on taking a 45 minute uber home in the morning. Would have been worth it) and then offer to drive her home when the club closes at 2 (I was sober), but both those options are understandably turned down. Pivotal point #1: I should have known about these logistical challenges before they got sprung on me at 1:15am. I knew she came with her friends and had asked where she was staying but I didn't know about the limo and I didnt realize it was so far away (because her family lives close but she was spending the night at her friends far away, I didnt get enough information). Pivotal point #2: At this junction I could have pushed harder to keep her there or go with her but it seemed like there was no way I was escaping these logistics and I thought pushing harder than I already had would just look needy on this stunner.

So I grabbed the number and felt like a chode knowing numbers are flaky as fuck. Her logistics get worse tho. I had already discerned that she was from my city but goes to school in a different city and was returning to school on tuesday. She also had commitments sunday and monday during the day (and presumebly monday at night unless she was planning on spending her last night at home with mr. club boy.) She said "I'll see what I can do but no promises" when I tried to set up a day 2 as I got the number, which I thought was reasonable but also not encouraging.

Hit her up with some funny shit that night after she leaves, she hits me back, I follow up sunday morning trying to nail down a day 2, I get nothing back all day but I'm not needy and I dont double text and at 630pm I get that her and her cousin are going out to x bar at y time and bar hopping.

Perfect. Its back on. Made my mouth water she was so gorgeous. I meet up with her and to my suprise her cousin is a ~28 year old guy who owns a few bars in the city and we are not alone, but we are with his 15 bar/nightclub/promoter friends. Ok, I can handle this. Its very early, like before 9pm, all indications are that this crew is looking to rage all night, so I'm probably not getting her out quick but I can just keep her laughing and chatting and into me while I befriend the key players in this huge high status posse until they are encouraging her to go with me. Thats the plan. Plan starts out well. I see her, we hug, meet some of the posse, introduce myself to her cousin, then me and her chat for a lil and I pull her outside, get some 1 on 1 time with her early. First problem: She looked pretty uncomfortable. The eye contact/body language wasn't on me as directly as it was the night before and her hands were super fidgety like she was stressed out or something. I figured this was because she had last night's club boy showing up to meet her in front of her older cousin and their posse of friends. Seems reasonable. So I back off a lil. We change venues and now I'm making a concerted effort to game the posse more than I'm gaming her. And with some of the group members I was making really good progress with, vibing and dancing with them and just not making her feel like she needs to babysit me. I also went back to the all-important cousin two other times to just chat for lil convos trying to learn about his life and get some report there, honestly it had mixed results. The guy was not disrespectful or mean to me and we did chat but he also knew I was there trying to hookup with his cousin and I don't think he loved that idea. Oh, to make matters worse I had worn an outfit that was basically the guy version of her outfit! I.e. as far as patterns and colors went we were basically matching. So that was the butt of a few jokes too. So now at this point she starts walking off, spending time with her cousin or other members of the posse, and I let her without reacting. I keep dancing and vibing with the posse members I had some good chemistry with and just let her do her. I thought this was smart because I didn't want to see dependent on her for a good time. At one point the djs friend is hitting on her and I slid in there and kinda tooled him/made it clear I stood in the way of him getting this girl. I thought this was the right and cool move but it might have been needy, I'm not sure. Anyway at this point now she is really attached at the hip to her cousin. I give them a good half hour together and then I try to join in but I'm not getting much in return from her as far as eye contact or body language or dancing so I go back to her posse's friends I had befriended. The friends I was hanging with are starting to get drunk and decide to leave so now I'm totally solo in this awkward situation, but not to worry, I start befriending others in the club! Dancing and singing and hanging with them. All is well until I turn around a little after 11pm... My girl, her cousin, and their posse have left the venue without me ;( Shot off one hail mary "Hey where'd you run off to?" text which never got a reply and I had to go home empty handed.

It was not the most pleasant end to the adventure. And damn was she sexy. I'm trying to figure out what I could have done differently. I clearly got attraction the first night. . The logistics the first night were I believe insurmountable. The best I could hope for given those logistics was to see her again the following night, which happened. Good. I just couldn't navigate the girl/cousin/posse situation on the 2nd night. I thought I was doing okay by making sure everyone in the posse knew who I was, who I had come to meet, and by entertaining myself in the group without relying on her. But clearly between 7pm and 11pm I went from a guy worth inviting out to a guy worth abandoning at a venue. So something did not go well. I need to run it over in my head a few times to try and figure out where I messed up or what could have been done differently. I'll comment my thoughts below if I have more. If you've read to the end I commend you and ask for your thoughts as well.