For someone who has gotten some dates from Instagram, I thought I’d share my experience and things I’ve picked up (I’m not saying this is and will be the only way it’s only my personal expirence and there definitely are other ways)

I’ll get the most commonly suggested tactics or stuff your told more often then not, I don’t directly try to ask out someone who just randomly followed me or be pushy about it (I was in the start tho and it Didn’t lead me any where)

Of course I’ll tell you to be fun and flirty but I’ve seen how much of a vague meaning that’s been given to on this sub reddit, so by fun and flirty I mean take a look at her profile and analyze it a bit (here’s a tip don’t like any other picture rather than the first one), after that just give her a compliment about one of her pictures or make a witty joke about it. Replying and saying something about her story is actually pretty great, example being there was this one girl I managed to get nudes out of and I just started off by asking her age by replying to her story in which she was in a birthday didn’t go any further than that.

Intimidation. Don’t be intimidated by her account if she has 1k or above followers, they’ll actually be the one that will respond more often and let’s be honest its likely we don’t even know half of our own followers and barely talked so it is something unusual to message a random follower on Instagram, and yeah I have noticed your “sliding in” timing varies, I have gotten ghosted by replying to someone that followed me a day earlier, and I have gotten dates from months old followers so I can say that Idk much about that area but most of my experiences are from later followers.

Ghosted or left delivered, understand that this isn’t tinder or a dating app where usually a lot of the time both sides are invested and put in a bit more of effort in the start, this is someone you don’t know and you’ll find yourselves being left on seen, but that’s the part where you need to decide, if it’s leaving you on read after you answered her question or after you said lol or something like that you probably will have to re-engage and by re-engage I don’t mean chase or be that one desperate guy that can’t take a hint. And yeah if you got left on read it you asked a question or said something she was suppose to respond to then yes it’s time to leave that chat and learn from it a bit, and yes it’s your fault if she read you on seen on a goddamn “lol” only, try saying something witty and related like if she says “Omg I really like make-up” don’t say just say lol or a dry ass text and yeah I get it it’s hard for a guy to try strings to make up but it’s not impossible, respond with a question or joke or maybe even a meme like “ lol, make up is like steroids for girls’ faces but if using steroids is cheating in sports why isn’t it cheating in beauty contests🤨🧐” yeah that was real example I did and understand was a little aggressive question but not presented aggressively, so do be a little careful since girls are more sensitive about a lot of things in this day and age

Left on seen, yeah this one does take a bit of expirence and analysis, there will be some girls that leave you directly at seen, there could be a lot of reasons for that, And it’s not that their not single, you’d be surprised to know girls in relationships will probs respond more likely, their usually the ones with way to much attitude and love that attention, What I do is just leave it there and accept it, and yeah do DM multiple girls on a night but don’t just send a hey or hi, try making a witty joke about her profile pics, story or overall post or posts,

Yeah this one is most important, your own profile needs to look damn good, you in shape, keep a gym or body based story or even multiple post threads, you go out a lot, post pictures of the mall on a story thread, you and your friends do stupid shit you know what to do, point being you need to show off a bit because that’s what Instagram is about, presenting yourself, don’t be shy to take pics ask your friends there’s a lot of good and cheap picture ideas, and you don’t even have to show your face in a lot of them (no offense on that one just in case your insecure), you don’t need to post a expensive car or stuff like that and yeah if you feel like a picture is good but not good enough for a post just put it up on a story,

Escalation. Don’t just keep her on IG switch to Snapchat since that has a bit of suspense and keeps her guessing yeah obviously Snapchat isn’t gonna change your messages to more fun and mysterious ones you’ll be doing that, and from there get her number, face time her or invite her on a date eventually. Yeah you don’t have to follow this step for step when you feel like it’s the right time or you know her well enough to ask her out go for it and yeah last thing I forgot to mention up there, don’t be afraid to ask basic question like, where she lives or what’s her job, but don’t flood her with those questions make a joke after she answers that and keep it light, don’t make it a goddamn interview, yeah of course I know this sub has gone to Shit, filled with negativity and always that one guy who has done this and didn’t get results(I know your lying) and there will be a lot of older men coming here to beat me up saying shit like “no women don’t like that and blah blah blah” my defense would be give it a shot and if it doesn’t work then tell me