Found this on a newsgroup back in the late 90's, carried it around in my wallet on a business card for years. Figured y'all might appreciate it, and if you have any little litanies that help you stay focused, please share.

"How to be one of those manipulative basturds that chicks dig:

Be amoral. Have a clear knowledge of your goals. View any interaction as an excercise in problem-solving via the achievement of thse goals. Observe. Learn the games well, and know when to play them and when to bypass them. Project the type of demeanor you wish to be perceived as having(D'oh!) Think like a predator. Know when to push and when not to. Process-orient; Don't worry about whether it will work or not, Just Do It. Be selective. Never allow yourself to be seen as "Safe". Care less than they do. Don't indulge in wishful thinking unless you're willing to make it happen. Otherwise, if it's not going to work, drop it gracefully and move on. Never let any sort of failure faze you, and if it does, don't let it show. Listen. Learn. Be damned good in bed. Practice intermittent reinforcement; be neither consistently affectionate nor consistently insensitive. Develop a strong personal presence. Adapt to circumstances rapidly. When oppurtunity knocks, answer, dammit. And don't forget to be amoral.

By Chiaroscuro"