So I've been dating this girl for about 4 months and last week she broke it off. She had just recently finalized her divorce when we started hanging out as friends. About a month in to the friendship we started dating. Everything went extremely well and I thought I might have met my "One itis". The relationship did start to get very serious pretty quick because I was all about this girl and vice versa. We both acknowledged that we were in love and starting to make further plans within our relationship. Well last Sun all of a sudden she just went cold and I didn't hear from her for 3 days. We were always really close and was even planning on taking a vacation next week. So Wed. she says she needs to talk to me so we meet up. She breaks up with me saying that her ex (lives 3 states away) has been contacting her and there is no chance of them getting back together but basically she said, "I was with him for over 10 years and I still love him although I hate him and I am in love with you but it is not fair to you when I can't give you my all". I understand where she is coming from, but I don't understand how you can just throw away the bond we built up overnight. Since then I haven't had contact with her because if she needs space then I am not going to be contacting her like a lost puppy (although I can't get it off my mind and feel lost). I have been going out and having a blast and in her eyes I am perfectly fine with it. Basically I am trying to reestablish that I am the prize and it is me that she really wants so I haven't had any contact except for saying she has a few things at my house and when she would like to get them. I know she loves me but I don't know what to do at this point to get her back. I have just tried to act like nothing is wrong and my life totally kicks ass right now and it is her that is missing out.

I have always heard that I should act the opposite of how I feel. For instance, don't contact her, go out have fun, start dating and subtlety let her know I am back on the market. etc.

Anyone have any suggestions on what to do at this point? Things to say when I do have contact with her? Should I just let it ride and give it time or start prompting jealousy tactics to make her think she may have just made a huge mistake?

Thanks Seddit!