Hey seddit -

Last time I came to you I asked for advice for what to do on a date - and it was wildly successful. I ended up having one of the best sex based relationships of my life - partly because of your advice.

I've also upped my bar/party/social setting game a lot. Out of the couple nights a week I get to go out, there is a pretty good chance I will be kissing and touching someone and leaving with their number.

Now it is the in between time - specifically the time between that first meeting and the second time I see said female. On the night I meet these girls I can tell they want to see me again. But that desire seems to give way to caution and them deciding to keep pushing back the "date" for a second meeting, and eventually abandoning the idea entirely. I try to play it cool, if anything I feel I might be being a bit distant. Generally I wait 2-3 days to call or text. I feel I should probably say more in my texts, even try to get a conversation going but it seems that I can't find a middle ground between being too aggressive and too distant/nonchalant.

I think my game, which works wonders when the girl is in front of me, causes reason for concern when they have a moment to themselves. I am a very agressive, sexualized, and dominating which I can tell is physically arousing but might give girls the idea that I'm all about sex, which can ruin a bit of the mystique. I also have a crude sense of humor and am not all that romantic. The girls I like to go for are the secret freaks, the ones who put up a front of being "not that kind of girl".

I miss out on a lot of great girls because of my inability to get that second meeting. To be honest I am open to more than just sex and am not too into one night stands. (I find that sex really gets good around the third or fourth time you do it, and I like to get to know someone on a deeper emotional level) How do I convey my interest without seeming desperate in that crucial in between period?