So I dated this girl 8 years ago (I'm 34). We both went and got married and both recently got separated, I have 3 months for my divorce to be final.

We've been hanging out a lot recently as friends (I wasn't that into it to start), but in the past few weeks I've decided I want to date her. I've just started reading Seddit, but I actually think I did everything right from the beginning, at least for a while.

From the beginning:
* I didn't make her a high priority.
* I didn't hide my interest in other girls
* I let her know that my standards for women were pretty high
* I escalated

So two weeks ago, we went out with some friends. I came to her house first and we walked from there. When it was time for me to go home I walked her into her place, gave her a hug and left. 5 minutes later she texted me asking me to come back and make-out. While we're making out she says it's a one-time thing, just for fun etc. We ended up having sex and I woke up next to her in the morning.

Now my crush starts. All of my proper behavior goes out the window. We're texting a lot, I'm making her my top priority, etc.

Then I go and tell her how I feel. Stupid I know, but I hadn't been to Seddit yet. She tells me that she's not interested in doing that right now because I'm still married and we're both enjoying being single, but she's definitely not ruling something out down the road.

I'm not in the friend zone now but I want to keep it that way. Here's my plan as of now, this is what I want input on.

  • reduce the amount of contact, no more idle texting/email whatever
  • continue dating other girls as much as possible and not hiding it from her
  • cancel plans once in a while
  • keep the physical contact present and escalate from time to time.
  • maybe fuck one of her (not close) friends

Anything else I should/shouldn't do?