I'm a KHHV senior with no friends and I need serious advice.

The__Tren__Train · 2018-09-08T21:17:06+00:00

do not take SSRIs
if you have acne, take accutane (fixed my problem, no scarring thank GOd. )
dont worry about social media... it's a colossal waste of time.
you are very young, so don't worry too much about where you are at currently... you have PLENTY of time to change.
don't worry about not having friends at your current stage in life.. the vast majority of people essentially 'start over' in college.

i was exactly where you are... except i was chubby, but didn't have a problem making friends or getting some attention from women here and there.

[deleted] · 2018-09-08T21:12:00+00:00

No. Don't fuck with your test levels. You can diminish your anxiety in many other ways. Just to name a few: meditation, lifting, and a consistent sleep schedule will significantly reduce your anxiety.
Social Media is a trap. You will feel insignificant and constantly compare yourself to the people around you. Nothing has been so good at reducing my anxiety as when I dropped all social media accounts.
Get in the habit of talking to girls, but don't hold yourself to the standard of sleeping with girls. You probably won't get laid, and that's alright. You are still a valuable human being.

What you should do is start to integrate better habits: Start lifting, start meditating, start talking to people you wouldn't usually talk with. As you get bigger, you'll get more attention from girls and respect from guys.

Also, it gets MUCH easier in college to socialize and get laid. You're going to be fine.

SirKolbath · 2018-09-08T23:58:24+00:00

I agree with the other commenters here, however I would not blanket tell you not to take doctor prescribed medications for anxiety. I would say to get at least two more diagnosis and recommendations before you start playing with chemistry. At the same time do as the other users recommended. Make the following commitments to yourself:

Get a minimum of 7.75 hours of sleep every night. I did this and holy shit did my outlook and health improve.
Meditate for at least fifteen minutes at least four times a week. I tried meditation and it didn't do shit for me. I stuck with it and eventually I noticed that I could do limited biofeedback, such as lowering my heart rate by almost 15bpm. During an anxiety attack that can be really helpful.
Lift at least twice a week. Mondays and Thursdays are good because they'll give you long recovery times. (Until you get further into it and can handle the last point.)
Eat healthy. Get some Boost high calorie shakes to supplement your diet. Balance out your eating so you're bringing in enough calories to grow despite your exercise regimen.

You'd be surprised what these changes can do for your overall emotional health.

Good luck.

Title	I'm a KHHV senior with no friends and I need serious advice.
Author	CheapJackfruit
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	September 8, 2018 9:05 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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