So I'm recently coming out of a 8 year relationship (started in mid high school when we were 14) and after 8 years I felt like I had no more "swagger" so to speak. I wasn't quite sure how to seduce a woman anymore. The rules which apply to 14 year old girls don't apply to grown women.

So I read a EVERYTHING under "New Here" and a select few of the links those posts linked to that were of particular interest to me. Also from the front page I read this post and figured I should also make that my goal to approach at least 10 girls too. So here is how the night went:

First I hit the local college bar that everyone nearby goes to. I went too early, it was around 10PM and women were scarce. Also for the few women who were there I felt some AA in approaching them. I couldn't make eye contact and the one time I thought I did I barely muttered out a "Hey". I met a friend of mine who was dressed as Clark Kent / Superman and we chatted about comic books for a bit, and I almost considered just calling it quits and hanging with my bud and talking comics and other nerd stuff all night.

But no. I was on a mission, so I told him I would catch him later and headed to the school's main campus. I only went there in hopes of bumping into girls to start up a conversation. Alas whatever side of the road I was on, they were on the opposite side, or were clearly with significant others (if there is a technique to deal with this I have not read it as yet, and also I'm not looking to break up happy relationships, there are plenty single women out there)

So after making a round through the college campus to no avail I got my car and hit another bar. This bar was worse off than the previous one. There were mostly guys there and the few women there seemed to be with other guys or were of no interest to me. I grabbed a beer, drank it slowly and considered calling it a night.

I left that bar and went to another, this one was once again worst than the previous. It was tiny and the crowd seemed older. As I entered a group of late 20's looking women left, I would say they were HB6's or HB7's and as I held the door open for them they said thank you and they said you're welcome. In retrospect I could have said something like "Aw come on you ladies can't be leaving the party now, I just got here" but i didn't. I stepped into the bar, saw the crowd and took what I felt at the time was walk of shame right back out without making any contact with anyone.

Feeling dejected I tumultuously went to another location, this time it was a dance club / bar. I had heard over they years that it was a primarily gay bar/ club, but lots of straight people went there. After deciding to pay the high entry fee for the night ($12!) at first I felt regret of wasting money on the entire night. I sat at the bar and grabbed a beer and just kept an eye on the crowd ( in a non-creepy, non-staring manner).

Soon a girl from a group of girls that consisted of HB7's and HB8's bumped into me. She apologized for bumping her ass into my leg and I made a joke about it saying that my leg can take a lot of ass bumping. I tried to keep conversation going, but eventually she just turned back to her friends abruptly.Now this part was the turning point of the night. I felt dejected, but I decided to not let that put me down! That was girl #1 that I spoke to, she laughed a little and moved on, and I let her reject me instead of doing her job for her.

I wanted to keep try to strike a conversation with other girls in the group, but I couldn't find an "in". So I waited. I made eye contact with another girl and made a comment about her drink. She actually came closer and showed it to me, but then just as abruptly ended the conversation. After that I think I had a similar experience with another girl, but then things changed.

From across the bar I made eye contact with another girl. She smiled. The keeping my eye in her general direction (without just staring at her) she looked at me again and I raised my beer to her in salute. She returned the gesture, then after a few seconds she came up to me! We spoke for about an hour, I just kept it flowing, even when I felt it was a boring topic, I just made sure to play it off as a joke and kept it short if it was boring. Truth be told I just let her do most of the talking.

Eventually we started talking about getting shots. This is where my mettle was tested. I personally felt like I needed the alcohol to prevent my mind from starting to think in detail too much and freeze up, but I didn't want it to be a case of me buying a drink for her. I made a decision that based on the fact that we had been speaking for an hour I would get us both shots, but then told her that if we decided we wanted more, that she could get the next round. She agreed and we spoke for about another 10 minutes before some other guys got her attention. I felt challenged, but played it cool. She actually kept turning back to me to show me what was going on (the guy was looking at her facebook pictures) and at this point there had been a decent amount of physical contact between us. Eventually I got her attention again, but she soon left and then when I saw her again she was talking to a few other guys.

At this point I had put her on a "pussy pedestal" so to speak, I thought that things were going well and there was a good chance of me getting intimate with her or at least very physical on the dance floor and get a number later. I had to force myself to move on and not just keep looking in her direction.

So I spoke to...wait for it...two girls at once. They at times seemed to move on from me, but I just kept talking and they would speak with me for a while longer. Eventually I just knew it was time to let them go and move on. At this point I'm up to talking to 5 girls and felt pretty good. Went back to the bar and met another girl who seemed to be a masculine lesbian. I chatted with her nonetheless to take my mind off the other girl I had felt I connected with. Lets call her "Sarah".

I occasionally kept and eye one Sarah as I scanned the rest of the club, and eventually she disappeared. I caved and decided to go walk over to where I last saw her. Bad idea in concept, but it turned out well this one time. I made eye contact with another girl just as i was leaving who was surrounded by guys. I smiled and said hi, even though I felt one of them must have been her boyfriend, but it turned out they were all gay! From the get go we hit it off. Let's call her "Amy". Amy was very physical, and bossy. Let me be clear, bossy in terms that she knew what she wanted, not bitchy. She had set her sights on me and was not about to let me go. We got to talking for the rest of the night and her hands were all over my head and body, and mine on her waist, legs and hair. Our conversations also began to get hyper sexualized. Alas she had to leave due to some other issues I won't get into, but I had gotten her number (she got mine as well) and she kept reminding me to call her through the night.

After Amy left I felt really good. The confidence boost was amazing! But I didn't call it a night there. A guy friend I had made at the bar introduced me to two girls, and after a short conversation with them (my mind was still on Amy) I went to look for Sarah as I had kept seeing her out the corner of my eye. I figured I would see if I could pick things up there as the bar was starting to close down. I couldn't find her and decided to go talk to the two girls again. I told them they looked great and I wish I could have spoken to them more. (they were not very attractive, but I figured I would still talk to them). I spoke to the pair of girls I had first spoken to and we chatted about the club for a bit and then I gracefully exited.

On my way out two girls were handing out flyers and I flirted to them too! So by the end of the night that was 10 (or 11 if you count the lesbian chick) girls!

tldr?;Moral of the story? Read what is on /r/seddit, learn it, live it. Never give up, keep pushing. I now understand as well that tonight could have gone terribly for me, but I should not have let it hold be back from going out another night!