Kinda rambly just skip to the end if you want so advice on how you can be an overweight (I'm 5'10, 240), average looking dude and get girls.

Phone number 1/Date 1 (HB-7, 8.5 if you like fit but curvy black girls): (Saturday) Met a girl at a rave. We were both sobering up so we talked for a long time. She told me that most guys who come over grab her (admittedly very nice butt) or whisper weird shit in her ear and she is usually willing to dance with a guy who just comes over and asks without being creepy. Thought this was an interesting tidbit. Isolated her, tried for a kiss, was congratulated on being bold, but that she wasn't that kind of girl. She offered her phone number. I was kinda down at the point. Still I sent her a flirty text the next day. She responded. I figured I'd send another text on Thursday to see if she wanted to meet up, but she sent an unsolicited text Wednesday asking to meet up. Schedules didn't work out though but she is interested.

Phone number 2 (HB-7): At a friends party who does a lot of dancing, place was swarming with girls. I make my way around the room chatting up girls, not overstaying my welcome, hitting up my guy friends just to establish social cred. Eventually isolate this one girl. We chat and she tells me she likes to do trivia. Told her I'd take her number and text her when I went. Got the number, but I wasn't really interested and I didn't send her a text at all. She never texted me back but whatever.

Date 3 (HB-6): I hate online dating. I'm not an amazing looking guy, but I've very funny and personable. I can pull 8's in person, I can pull a 6 or a very unique looking 7 at best online. Still I do it when I'm bored at work. Chatted one girl up. She wants to meet up with me but went out of town for the weekend. Nothing interesting. More just advice to those of you who know you aren't amazing looking, even a funny quirky profile isn't going to pull you better girls than just going out.

Date 3/Phone number 3 (HB-8): This is honestly the one I am most excited about and I met her through a meetup.com group in the area. It's a hike. It's my first meetup with the group which is difficult because I have to break into existing friend circles, but I thrive on meeting new people. Talked up a lot of guys and girls including one girl who must was a super nice Pilates instructor with a perfect body , easily a 9, later told me she had two kids, a 6 year old and a 4 year old. Not really my thing, but just wanted to share the wow factor that had. I end up zeroing in on this cute blonde. She knows the group pretty well, but wandered off on her own a lot so there were a lot of mini iso opportunities. Found out she lived near me so we swapped numbers to carpool to meetups. I texted her a joke about the hike a few hours later. A text conversation ensued and we are meeting up next week.

tl;dr advice

  1. It doesn't matter why you get their phone number. Come up with some excuse for them to give it to you. It's much more comfortable for them.

  2. After getting the phone number, send a text a few hours later or the next day. A joke about something you talked about etc. This opens the boundries of your relationship.

  3. Just straight up ask. I was so scared about asking the last girl for her number, but she has been so enthusiastic through the text messages that I am glad I did. Nut up gentleman.

  4. Online dating is terrible unless you have a profile picture of your washboard abs. You can always pull better tail in person.

  5. Online meetup groups are awesome. It's a great way to meet people. Meetup.com apparently has many more women than men (at least in the group I went to).

Thanks again seddit for the confidence to ask for the number, and the wisdom to do the right thing with it.