I had the most frustrating conversation with my friend the other day. He basically is your typical frustrated afc and thinks the only way to get girls is to be a complete asshole to her and make her feel like shit. I basically tried to argue that girls are attracted to confidence, but couldn't really articulate myself very well. Here are some excerpts from our conversation:

Him: every girl i treat like a bitch will provide sexual favors. every girl i treat nicely will not

me: lol what do you mean

Him: It's really important that your "confidence" lies in your confidence that you are right and the girl is an idiot

me: i feel like that only works on girls who are insecure

him: there are no girls who are not insecure in my experience. i've tried being a gentleman with girls who don't seem obviously insecure. its never worked

me: its like you have confidence in your opinions and in your actions. that doesn't have anything to do with being nice or being an asshole though - your opinions and actions can be nice or assholeish and be confidence or not confident

him: yes but i'm quite confident that my actions are correct but that is apparently not "confident"

I think it would be nice to see some responses that sedditors have, especially because i feel like this is a pretty common opinion among afc friends that I know. Maybe someone has a link to a post or article talking about this?