[FR] or lack thereof. Inadvertent peacocking, Avengers, and Cinco De Mayo. It's worse than I thought.

krazykid1337 · 2012-05-06T04:22:19+00:00

I'm not disappointed in you bro...far from it. You're starting off, you're new, I get that, seddit gets that, and you did something good (you wore a unique piece of clothing that had attractive qualities) and you even talked to some girls. What you have here is a great start, what you do from here is up to you but best thing you can do from here is try stepping further and further outside your comfort zone, and learn from every single thing you do. Keep in mind, any man worth his salt has his own long string of failures, if you're going to be the casanova you're wanting to, might as well start here.

It helps to make a list, a sexual inventory if you will, of good and bad traits, physically, emotionally, mentally, etc. Once you do, you have strong suits that you can embrace and you have weaknesses you can address. If you feel super socially awkward talking to girls with the idea of picking them up in your mind, just try conversing and keeping conversation light, then eject when you feel its time. The point is to be comfortable with yourself around girls, because if you don't feel comfort inside you can't share that with anyone else. But try and learn from each set (or night) something new about your game and fine tune it. Try for longer and longer encounters each time.

Lemme ask you... are you good at any sports? Instruments? What are your talents that you're exceptional at? You don't have to be national champion but pick one, anything.

I liken talking to women as playing an instrument or a sport. In this case I'll use the baseball as an example just because I feel like it. Remember when you were just learning how play ball? You didn't know how to catch, hit or base run. You had this mental image of what good ball players could do but you were so inefficient with the sport and yourself that you couldn't do it. You'd stand out there with your pop or a friend fielding ground balls, slowly refining your game and over time, after making enough mistakes and learning from them you got better. You played in games, found out what worked and what didn't, you embraced your strengths and filled in your weaknesses. Eventually, you become decent and from there its just practice practice practice. The point I'm trying to make is that if you can't catch then there's no point in trying to hit a homerun. Start out slow and move when you're comfortable or you'll never get anywhere. Plus you won't get better at ball if you're just reading about what it takes to be a good player, you gotta put it to action.

Girls are the same way, just like playing ball. Its a numbers game (in more ways than one) so know what you got and figure it out from there. Hopefully that helps and makes you feel better, don't get down on yourself dude, the simple tone of your post tells me you lack confidence. Confidence is built from success, success is built from knowledge, knowledge is built from failure, and failure comes from attempts. You have a starting point my brotha, now go out, talk to some girls and learn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Edit: I can't stress the learning thing enough. Back to the baseball analogy, my favorite player is doc holladay from the phillies who is one of the best pitchers in baseball not because he can throw the ball hard but because he's so good at making adjustments. If he makes a mistake, he notes it and plows away, making the necessary adjustments to his game so he can continue to win. You gotta be like doc man, always learning and adjusting, all the best players, artists, musicians, do this and so must you or fail, its as simple as that. Best of luck.

Title	[FR] or lack thereof. Inadvertent peacocking, Avengers, and Cinco De Mayo. It's worse than I thought.
Author	ErroneousEric
Upvotes	6
Comments	4
Date	May 6, 2012 3:33 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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