I want to start with a thank you. My approach anxiety is very rare now which is awesome since I have diagnosed anxiety.

So I am on to step two, the conversation. I am witty and pretty intelligent guy, I like to think I am funny but I'll admit I am a little weird. I have a very weird sense of humor and I am little bit blunt For example, one of my favorite openers is, "I wanted to tell you something before anyone noticed... you have drool on your chin" their reaction is priceless. Plus, they also will buy you a drink occasionally for being a good guy.

Past openers I tend to rely on situational context until I get to know the girl better. I will also ask her about herself and have a very normal conversation. I do my best to be genuinely interested but playful.

I feel like a lot of my conversations are generic (while others are overly out there). It's a lot of what do you do for work? Where do you go to school? etc. I feel like it doesn't help me stand out at all. Are these the questions you guys ask? Is it more about how I respond to their answers? If so, how do I make it more fun? Do I fake being interested in some of their stuff or do I make them fight for my attention by looking around when they are getting boring.

I feel like my conversations are better at the beginning of the night or if I don't drink too much. I will admit that I go overboard with drinking sometimes. How do you find the balance between having fun (taking shots together, buying her a drink, etc) and getting too drunk?

Thanks again. You guys have really helped me build up my confidence. I am more comfortable going to events alone and still having a great time. Honestly, I am better person living a better life because of seddit.