picking up bartenders/waitresses?

2012-06-24T07:59:22+00:00

Well bartenders/waitresses get paid to be friendly. Of course they're going to be nice to you, you'll give them a bigger tip. Not saying it's impossible, but something to keep in mind.

cited · 2012-06-24T15:36:06+00:00

As a bartender, don't even bother. I dated another bartender for a little while who was just gorgeous, and she would get hit on by probably 200 guys a night. She's paid to be friendly and look good and we're doing it for tips. I thought I'd get irritated watching guys hit on her but in the end I just laughed it away - she'd never do anything with any of them, no matter how flirty she was, and we all split the tips evenly.

pseudohim · 2012-06-24T16:50:09+00:00

Waste of time. It's their job to be flirty and act interested in you. Most of them have boyfriends or husbands, and spend their entire day being objectified by creepers. You will appear no different to them.

Not nice, but it's the truth.

capitulum · 2012-06-24T13:14:55+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/rtkdm/how_do_you_feel_about_getting_hit_on_at_work/

that might help a little bit. there's a longer thread on that subreddit that says exactly the same thing, I just can't find it.

GraduallyImpolite · 2012-06-24T15:04:37+00:00

As a longtime pua and former service industry worker, I'd advise against attempting to pick up bartenders/waitresses/baristas/etc in most situations, unless you get some incredibly strong signals. There are a few reasons for the this, the biggest one was already mentioned elsewhere in this thread by notyalc32: Being nice and also a little bit flirty with members of the opposite sex is going to get them a fatter tip nine times out of ten. Most of them are well aware of this, and won't be interested in escalating further. Call them manipulative bitches if you want, but that's the name of the game, kid. The other reason is that, for real asshole, they're at work trying to do their jobs. The attractive ones get hit on by scummy fucks like you all day, and they probably don't need yet another greasy douche nozzle trying to cop a feel while they put down your soggy burger and fries. Stick to whale hunting you sad empty excuse for a human being.

vaginitischlamydia · 2012-06-24T17:38:27+00:00

I've had some great experiences with picking up waitresses, but as in almost all of these situations (working girls, strippers, etc.), you have to get in with the staff (or at least seem to be) or you'll just be another customer. In my case, I was a regular at a bar with lots of hot waitresses and knew them all by name and them me. Eventually, it just became like picking up any other girl because we could cut through the tip getting flirty bullshit and speak like normal people. She expressed some interest in me, I reciprocated and it was set. On the plus side, girls loveeee to talk and because I treated her extra nice in bed, all the other girls heard about it and got extra curious... shwing!

Petrarch1603 · 2012-06-25T08:47:44+00:00

I've had this conversation with my friends before and 99% of the time its pointless. Even if you have great game, there are 20 dudes a night trying to hit on this girl. You really think you have anything new or special? This is beyond all the complaints about a girl just trying to do her job and working for tips. It is possible, but if you have to ask how to do it on the internet, then you don't have a prayer. Move on, Butters.

Title	picking up bartenders/waitresses?
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Date	June 24, 2012 5:48 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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