I love women, the way they look, how they smell, the sound of their laughter, the softness of their skin, their quirky differences from each other. Sure not all women are attractive or cool but there's a seemingly infinite number that are AMAZING. What I'm getting at is that if you're in a relationship and she really is "the one" then great, love her like crazy... But don't get hung up on one girl who you just met or can't get. If you can switch to the mindset of "loving the gender over the individuals" you'll get over oneitis easier and be less discouraged when you get rejected and you'll be more driven to improve and enjoy the game more. Cheers.