State of Mind is key, How can I achieve a more forward or predominant one?

2012-07-02T03:40:58+00:00

So generally you need to assume a state of mind where you are awesome and no one can tell you otherwise. For now, fake until you got it (which works surprisingly well). But here are some general tips I've given for helping to improve that:

There are several key aspects of confidence to that which are ENTIRELY manageable. Primarily there are the physical and mental aspects of confidence. Physical is easier actually. Hit the gym, use /r/fitness to help develop a routine. Eat proper foods and have a healthy diet (/r/fitmeals). For your appearance post in /r/malefashionadvice for a fashion that fits your figure and stature. Then for your hair you need a style for you, /r/malehairadvice. Finally for general grooming there's /r/malegrooming. Overall with a diet and regular exercise within a year you'll look completely different.

But you don't want to just be the dumb bodybuilder and actually the mental part is harder. But read books, doesn't matter what you read, read books. I remember I was talking to this HB9 Psychologist grad student, a subject I had NEVER done anything with before. But we started talking, I showed interest, commented on what I could and when she was talking about testing mentioend A/B Testing from an article in Wired I'd read. She was blown away that I knew of it. Find fun books to read, Sci-Fi, technology articles, get off Reddit to find interesting subjects to talk about. Reddit can help /r/books is good, just don't be the guy who can only talk about work and class.

For more general motivation in your life find an inspirational figure to model your life on. For me personally it's Theodore Roosevelt, Edmund Morris's biographical trilogy is FANTASTIC. At least read the first book, Roosevelt had to overcome much greater hurdles than you, you can do the same. Don't be afraid to ask questions and figure out why people think you are the way you are, just be sure to change it. If you need motivation, /r/GetMotivated is there for you. Further let this move into other areas of your life, work hard and play hard.

If you truly want a progression to give you some guidance, consdier The Art of Manliness' 30 Days to a Better Man (also just a damn good manly blog.) I'm going to encourage you to read some articles on Art of Manliness, it's not 100% perfect, but a great site for men.

A woman also likes a man with good values. One of the most attractive qualities I've been told by women is that I'm an Eagle Scout. Reasoning behind this is that it says that I embody certain aspects, namely the Scout Law and Scout Oath (as well as the Slogan and Motto). You can still live up to these ideals without being an Eagle Scout, just start now, they really are very manly.

For some inspiration look at this guy and this guy

But more specifically for your circumstances, generally I'm opposed to workplace romance but if you want to give it a shot go for it. First off how much do you two talk? If you're just coworkers that don't talk much, you gotta find a way to get to know her better first. Perhaps a work happy hour?

Symmetries · 2012-07-02T23:11:34+00:00

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Title	State of Mind is key, How can I achieve a more forward or predominant one?
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Date	July 2, 2012 3:02 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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