NOTE: this is a throwaway I made because I don't want to post on seddit through my regular for personal reasons. Hope you guys understand!
So let's get started
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I've been reading all the material here and many FR's with great interest. I had 2 massive long time relationships (8+ months each) with 2 different girls and I thought it was time to step up my game. I had a few hookups here and then from January to June with about 4 girls but they were mostly either drunk hook-ups (never again) or crazy girls who couldn't decide what they wanted.
I was tired of relationships and always amazed by how some of my friends would just say "Hey, I'll hook up with her" and within a few days' time they'd already have done so.
One of the things that made biggest impact on me were all the posts about mindset and inner game. Surely, I thought, it can't be ALL in my mind? There must be something ON me that's wrong right?
Turns out, it was. I've always attributed myself to be introverted but I guess I don't give enough credit for myself in account of how much I socialize (you'll see this later in my FR).
----End introduction, BEGIN FIELD REPORT----
I had gone out with a long time female friend of mine for some coffee, because we hadn't seen each other in a long time and we wanted to catch up. At around 9pm she had to leave and I had a rendzevous with my friends at 10pm to go get some vodka and hang out at what we call "the kiosks" (basically 2 big kiosks joined), located in a beautiful place in the riverside of the town.
So I had an entire hour at my disposal and I was completely alone, so I thought I'd go to the bar to try all the techniques I had learnt about from all the material I consumed. I walked in the bar like every other time, but this time something felt different. I felt... lucky. I felt I could own anyone in there. I started seeing people I know left and right, and went on to individually greet every one of them.
I was seeing mostly familiar faces, no new girls to play ball with, until, at some point, I noticed a girl (HB5) I know very barely (most of our contact consists of facebook likes and greeting each other on the street) with a friend of hers (HB7.5) sitting at a table waiting to get their drinks. I greet the girl I know, and then turn my back on them to greet a few friends of friends I saw on the table next to them. HB5 decides to pinch my butt for whatever reason, and I ignore it.
After finishing greeting the people on the other table, I turn back and just plainly SIT right next to HB5, and ask them "So, which one of you guys was it?" HB5 blushes and points at HB7.5 and vice versa (I knew it was HB5 because I saw her with the corner of my eye). At this point I introduce myself to HB7.5, I give her a firm and long handshake and we chit-chat for a bit. At some point, as she is about to ask me "So what are you up to this summer", I turn around mid-sentence and ask HB5 "So why in the hell did you pinch my ass back there?" HB5 is blushing and saying things like "Oh, just for fun" and we just joke around about it. I notice that HB7.5 is annoyed that I'm ignoring her. I tell HB7.5 to repeat and I find that as an excellent moment to start a bit of light kino.
I feel LUCKY.
At some point there I throw a neg towards HB5 (don't remember what it was because I threw a few very playful negs at both of them at the time) and she starts acting butthurt. HB5 says (of course in a playful tone, not a serious one) "Oh, cmon leave me alone!". I, for some reason, in the most shit-eating grin I could muster up, say "c'mon, are you not enjoying my company?" and HB7.5 says "hey, if she doesn't want you there come sit here next to me!" BINGO! So I sit next to HB7.5 and as she's about to say something I turn around to HB5 AGAIN and tell her "So you're gonna be like that all night?" and she just sticks out her tongue like a 5 year old. I turn to see HB7.5 acting like she's mad that I'm ignoring her, so I put my palms on her shoulders and do a fake-massage thing and say "aww, don't be like this", and she turns around and we continue our convo. My arms remain around her and I'm kinoing full throttle by now.
I look at the time and it's about 9.45. The rendzevous point I had with my friends is a 5-7 minute walk from the bar so I got a few minutes to close up my set nicely. I want to add some pressure to the conversation to ensure I get a number from HB7.5 (Kinda like I'm saying "I have to go" and she says "I wanna stay in contact with you", kinda like that, can't find a better way to describe it). I tell them about what we were planning to do with my friends and even invite them there with us. HB5 had absolutely no intention of going and I didn't want to take her friend and leave her alone, so I tell them "Alright, maybe another time. I'll be going in a couple of mins."
HB7.5 turns to me and asks me "hey, what's your name on facebook so I can add you?" I smile, take my phone out, create a new contact, hand it to her and say "Let's just skip facebook altogether, give me your number". She types it in, and I give her a call on the spot so that she gets my number. It's time for me to leave and HB7.5 says "aw cmon just sit a bit longer with us!" I tell her I didn't want my friends to be stood up and that I had to go (like a man putting down his foot kind of thing). As I get up from the table, I greet HB5 first, and then lean in towards HB7.5 and make a motion with my fingers pointing at my cheeks, signaling for a kiss. She kisses both of my cheeks. I say goodbye for one last time and I leave the bar (I also said a very quick goodbye to most of the people I knew who I ran into on my way out).
That's a wrap for the set! The rest is afterwards and some unlucky shit about an illness that caught me that night, so if you're not interested in that you can stop reading now.
TL;DR: By myself for an hour, went into bar, greeted everyone, found HB5 who I kinda know with HB7.5 who I met that night, got HB7.5's number.
----END FIELD REPORT - BEGIN AFTERWARDS, HEALTH, UNINTERESTING PART----
That night I logged onto facebook to find out that she had already friend requested me, so I accepted and she messaged me. After 3 or 4 messages I tell her "I'll meet you at (x bar) tommorow at 11pm" and she said "Yeah, that'll be great!"
I didn't drink with my friends that night; I hung out with them, of course, but I didn't drink. I decided to skip it as I've steered away from drinking in the last few months and I think that keeps me in better overall shape, so I went to bed feeling really well.
Now this is where unluckiness broke my game.
The next day, I woke up with a skyrocketed fever, a horrible and sore throat and a bump in my head (later I learned that was a lymph node) that killed me with pain whenever I touched it. I went to the doctor, and he told me that I either have Tonsilitis or goddamn Infectious mononucleosis (also called Mono, Glandular Fever or kissing disease or whatever). It's highly contagious through KISSING and stuff. Stays in your body for weeks or months or whatever. I did a blood test and an ultrasound. The ultrasound showed chains of lots of lymph nodes all around my throat. Which sucks. And the blood test came positive for Mono. So I obviously canceled with HB7.5 but I'm stuck with my 2 final weeks of summer SPENT IN HOME, losing a very possible very certain, in my opinion, hookup with HB7,5 and more importantly losing time I could use to practice this incredibly awesome and fun art.
At least I got my music and this awesome experience to look back on, and use it as a way to move forward!
ANYWAYS,
I'm very very interested to hearing your feedback!
Thanks for listening to my banter! It's been hell writing and then proofreading and then rewriting this, so if something I've said is not clear or I've forgotten to talk about something, tell me!
Thank you everyone in /r/seddit :)
edit: Added a few clarifications on the prologue and fixed some mistakes throughout the entire FR!
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