Hey, Seddit! I thought it was time to share one of my FRs with you lads (and lasses) about a simple #-close in the train.

I just finished class and was on my way to the train back home. I'm a seasoned traveller in public transport, so I nearly always manage to sneak first into the train to get the better seats. I open the door and hold it open for the person behind me - this cute, tall, Dutch girl. I sit down, and watch her walk down the carriage. I was thinking Damn, she got a fine arse. I gotta approach her.

Surprisingly enough, Mr. Loser (the voice in your head that tells you what you can't do) started talking. I took a deep breath, told Mr. Loser to go fuck himself, stood up and walked over to the girl (this was basically as soon as the train started rolling).

My opening sentence was pretty much as direct as direct can be - "Hey, how are you?" I didn't even listen to her as I smiled and sat down across from her. "When you passed me a moment ago I just thought 'Damn, I have to speak to this girl!'" - this is where you give her a moment to laugh/react - "So hi, my name is [name]". I offer her a handshake. She seems embarassed. Ah, well, whatever, movin' on!

We talk about why she's going to Amsterdam, what else she does, and how weird I find Dutch culture (seriously, it's weird. They have dinner at 18:00!) and I have her guess where I am from. My accent isn't a real Israeli one, so she didn't guess. I keep on pretending I don't speak Dutch, before I decide to switch it up a bit. I say:

"I don't know why I'm speaking English. I've been living here for 10 years - I can speak Dutch". Do note that I said that in Dutch. Bam, immediate ice-breaker. The girl was laughing at how I made her embarass herself by forcing her to speak English, which she does not find an easy language. We keep talking, and it turns out we get off at the same station, cool.

Of course, during the conversation I used very light kino - this is the train, not some kind of pub. I touched her knee or shoulder to emphasize my points, but that's all.

As we get off the train, I make sure she's walking behind me (this is already kind of a compliance test - she would take the other exit of the train if she was not compliant). I test her whether she remembered my name - just for the hell of teasing (thus showing I have balls and creating some more attraction before the close).

"You seem like a pretty fun girl, derpina." I take out my phone and hand it over to her. "I'm going to give you my phone now, and you're going to put a phone number in it. Whether it's your real number is up to you." I smile. She enters her number, I make sure that I spell her name correctly (I once got into trouble with two girls who had the same first name once, and a very slightly different surname, because of a typo) and leave.

I text her, and we have the following correspondence (text game is one of my weakest points, so I'd love some pointers on it!)

Me: Hey! This is derp. You know I'm going to ask you out, right? (I use this in case the girl is stupid and/or I'm not sure whether she's really attracted to me).

Her: Haha, yup, I suspected as much! But I need to think about it a little bit, if you don't mind! ;)

Me: Of course you need to think about it. I can imagine that this wasn't standard train interaction for you. ;)

And that's it. I'm gonna text her tomorrow (let her see by you letting go for a day or two you're not needy) asking her what her plans for next week are (never go for tomorrow/this weekend - this shows you have no plans, and thus stay at home. No-lifer? No sexy!).

I'd love to hear your thougts on both the approach here (feel free to ask for more details) and the text game. Cheers!