Hi!

I'm new to the game. I read "The Game" by Neil "Style" Strauss during the summer but I didn't get interested in the game until about two weeks ago.

It wasn't until few days ago that I decided to take control over ... my life. I work as a server in a restaurant in downtown Toronto and the most perfect 10 shows up and I get to serve her table. I know she liked me because I heard her telling her friend she thinks I'm cute and funny. I was too afraid to make a move though. I know it's not because I was working. In fact, if I had met her at a different time, different place, I probably wouldn't have approached her either.

That's when I realised that the problem is entirely in me. Even though I knew she felt attraction towards me, I wouldn't make a move.

I've been going to malls during the day for the past few days, walking around, looking at the beautiful girls (that are usually in sets of 2+), trying to get the courage to overcome my AA, but never actually getting the balls to do anything. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what to say when I approach them. "Hey, I saw you from over there and I thought I should come to tell you that I think you're really cute and I'd like to get to know you better. Hi, my name's X". This is the opener I came up with but never actually ever used because never overcame my AA.

I'm not handsome, but I'm not ugly either. According to my friends I'm 7.5~8, I'm 6"1(182cm), 155lb (70kg), lean, I work out almost every day, I'm in good shape. And yet I always feel like I will either get rejected or get laughed at, with not even a chance for positive answer. I guess partly it's because I'm 19 and I've only made out with one girl once (this summer), never had a girlfriend, never had sex and all the girl friends I've had, I friendzone by mistake. So far, I've been rejected/friendzoned by almost every girl I've tried to become more than friends with. What I'm trying to say is that I think my AA is so high because of not only the lack of experience I've had with girls, but also because of the negative experience I've had.

I just turned 19 on December 25th (which is the legal drinking age in Toronto, Canada) and I can finally go clubbing and to bars (legally ).

I guess my question is, since I've decided to take control of my life, where do I begin? I need a starting point because right now it feels like I am trying to do everything at the same time and it feels like too much to handle.

Should I memorize some openers first? Would that make my AA decrease a little? Should I stick to Day Game in malls or should I start with night game in bars and clubs and when I am able to do that, then move to day game? Should I work on my Inner game or Outer game or both at the same time? Any good books on Body Language, building rapport, leading a conversation?

I apologize for the long post but to be honest, I actually feel a bit better after sharing this with the community.

Thanks in advance for any replies. I like reading so feel free to recommend books or websites with good information if you find them helpful.