This is my first FR, going to be a long one.

Backstory: I'm 20 years old, only have had sex with 1 girl, never had a serious girlfriend. I have bad social anxiety that can be crippling.. I'm trying my best to fix it and have definitely had some results so far. I've been reading seddit for about 4-5 months, and I recently came across the book No More Mr. Nice Guy on this sub. It's changed my life definitely, previously I was a hardcore AFC, and on the process to becoming a man comfortable with my own needs and putting myself first.

So tonight I went to a concert that I've been looking forward to all week. I planned on meeting up with friends at the show, but headed out solo. My main plan was just to have fun and not be outcome dependent whatsoever.

I get there about 30 minutes after doors open. I texted my buddy and he's going to be a little late. The place is pretty empty, I see a bunch of people scattered around the room, looking pretty awkward. Within the first few seconds I make eye contact with this cute HB8 standing by herself with a drink.

Without even thinking/hesitating, I went up to her and asked her where everyone was, with a smile. I played dumb, cracked some jokes, and she was very receptive. We exchanged names, and kept talking. Let's call her Rachel. Turns out Rachel was there alone but was going to meet up with some friends later too. We talked about the band and their new album. I kept the conversation going and she was giving me a lot of IOIs. I guessed her nationality (half mexican, half irish) and she was shocked, and gave me a who are you?! with an amazed look in her eyes. It was a lucky guess!

I was getting great vibes from Rachel, our conversation was flowing very smoothly, and she was laughing at all of my jokes - even the terrible ones. Made lots of eye contact, I probably could have used more kino. One thing that bugged me was that I was facing her but she wasn't facing me directly.

Her phone rings, she apologizes and picks up. I take my phone out of my pocket and start dicking around on it. This is where I think I started to go wrong. I felt like it would be weird if I just stood there listening to her conversation and playing around on my phone waiting for her to be done. So I tap her on the arm, tell her I'll be right back, she nods. In retrospect, I should have just handed her my phone on the add contact screen.

I headed to the bathroom, washed my face and psyched myself up for the night. When I returned I couldn't find her. No sweat, I'll find her later. I met up with my buddy Cal, his girl and his roommate. I'm not great at group conversations, so unfortunately I didn't give my best foot forward, not getting great vibes from Cal's girl or his roommate. Whatever, can't please everyone.

I see Rachel near the merch table still on the phone. Cool, I'll go back and talk to her soon. Five minutes I look again, she's gone. I excuse myself from the group, go back to the bar and look for Rachel. The place is still pretty empty, can't find her. I was bummed, but tried not to let it get me down. We had great chemistry and I should have at least tried for her number.

It's getting hot in the venue so I go to check my coat. There are two lines and one is much longer than the other. People start catching on and begin to move over to the other line. I'm in a great state so I open a HB6 and talk about how we should have gone to the second line before it filled up. I thought she was alone, but she starts talking to a gorgeous HB9 behind her, who I found out was her cousin. I bring her into the conversation and we're laughing and having a good time. I joke with HB9 about cutting her in line, she playfully shoves me and smiles.

Then HB6s boyfriend shows up, which gives me some time to talk to HB9, let's call her Nina. Nina goes to a rival school of mine so I gave her shit for it. Turns out we're in the same year in uni but she's two years older because she took a couple of years off. Getting great vibes from her too, and she's absolutely gorgeous. HB6 is talking to her boyfriend so I talk to Nina for a bit. She has a cool tattoo on her back so I ask her about it and tell her I have the same one on my ass, she loves it. I'm standing with the three of them when the show is about to start, I'm feeling as if I'm hanging around too long so I tell the three of them I'll see them later and I eject to go find my friends. I meet back up with Kal. A girl behind me and I hold eye contact, turns out she's my friend Jack's ex. I went to a show for the same band with Jack, his ex and other friends last year. Jack's supposed to show up later in the night, I hoped things were cool between them two.

Still no sign of Rachel. I walked around the venue but couldn't find her. I think I invested way too much into her, we had great chemistry and she seemed to be really interested; but more importantly I was into her and wanted to get to know her better. I just wanted to get her number and then set up a date.

The show started, I find Kal again and start dancing. I'm trying to become more comfortable with not giving a fuck, I always feel awkward when I dance. The opening acts are cool so I'm enjoying it. There's some chump who looks like Carrot Top who bought a bouquet of flowers and is walking around and giving them to girls, he'll come into play later. About 20 minutes go by. There are some guys wearing light up finger gloves (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhIBZ2N-HIE) and putting on a show behind us in the crowd. Me, Kal, his girl and roommate all turn around to watch.

I see HB6, her boyfriend and Nina watching the show too. I walk over to them and start talking to them again like old friends. Feels good man. I'm talking to Nina when Carrot Top Flower Chump comes over and says "you're pretty" and says he'll give her a flower for a hug or a smile. She looks surprised and smiles. I ask him for a flower and he says "girls only, you have to help the cause if you want one, I'll charge you one dollar." What a tool. I said I'm good. I play it off to Nina, HB6 and her boyfriend like I'm upset I didn't get a flower. Nina puts her flower behind my ear. I pull out my phone and say "Before I forget, let me get your number." She puts it in and while doing so tells me "you're too young for me." I gave her the response I read here on seddit about stealing my dads ID just to get in, she laughs. (Not sure if she's still interested but I'll text her tomorrow about meeting up this week, I have nothing to lose). My first number close "in the wild". The headlining act is about to go on so I eject to go find my friends.

I find Jack, his ex and her friend all dancing and join them. I love hanging out and going to shows with Jack because he truly doesn't give a fuck, he dances like a madman doing the most ridiculous shit - but everyone can see how much fun he's having so they all love it. It warms up everyone around him.. I really admire how he puts himself out there like that. So I dance with them for the rest of the night, the band put on a great show and we all enjoyed it.

The concert was looong, so I had to go to the bathroom a couple of times. On my way back I circle the venue looking for Rachel, pretty pathetic in retrospect. No luck.

Before the end of the show Jack, his ex and her friend all decide to go to coat check while I stay put for the final song. The show ends and they return, so I head down to coat check solo to get my coat. On the way down I see a familiar face by herself to my left, it's Rachel. She's walking with some friends she told me about who are ahead of her. I smile, ask her how she liked the show.

She told me she enjoyed the show. I didn't want to "lose" her again this time so I pulled out my phone and said, "Before I forget, let me get your number." She said "I don't give out my number to anyone, it's just something I never do, you can ask any of my friends blahblahblah."

This really caught me off guard, I wasn't sure how to respond. I played it off jokingly, something like "It's your loss" and make some dumb joke about something earlier in the night. Not sure how to respond in this situation. She walks up to her friends coat check, there's no other place to wait so I go up behind her. I still decided to talk to her, wasn't going to totally ignore her just because she didn't give me her number. My buddy comes out of the bathroom so I chat with him for a bit. She gets her coat and says "Bye spinningwinning" in a tone that suggested she had enough of me. I got the hint and said good night in a similar tone. I met back up with Jack and his ex and her friend, they have to head to the train and I have to take the bus, so we chat for a bit about the show and then go home.

I'm glad I found Rachel and got some closure, I would have hated to never been able to chat with her again after having such great chemistry. I think she might have seen me wandering the venue a couple of times looking for her, which was lame in retrospect.

Thanks for bearing with me through my first FR. My first number close is a big step for me - I have no problems being social but I've struggled with creating a sexual frame. I'd love to set up a date with Nina this week but I'm not sure what to text her… something like "Hey this is spinningwinning from the concert.." seems kind of lame but I have no other options really. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks for reading.