I want to game a girl into becoming a very good female friend (nothing sexual). How must I change my Game plan?

Long story short: I flirt with everyone in order to get used to it. I now met a really nice girl and I gamed her up until a point (Approach > Attraction > Comfort)... I am now in the comfort phase.

The thing is, I don't want to seduce her in order to sleep with her. I'd do her but I want to set my goals higher (she probably is a HB6 and I aim for those 7-9s) and I think she will be way more "useful" if she becomes a good female friend of mine.

I got her number, I am practicing my text game and she is responsive as fuck. IOIs all over the place. She's totally into me, fulfills all my compliance tests. I could isolate her and make out with her anytime, I strongly believe.

TL:DR Players, what do I need to change in my game plan in order to not land in bed with her but become very good friends when she's attracted to you (and waiting for you to make the next step...).

THIS IS NOT A /R/ASKSEDDIT QUESTION BECAUSE I WILL RUN INTO THIS PROBLEM AGAIN. I GAME EVERYONE, I KNOW HOW TO PROCEED IN ORDER TO F-CLOSE BUT I HAVEN'T HEARD ANYTHING ABOUT THE OTHER SIDE.

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Just to let you know, I'm not the one downvoting you... you legit sound confused about this.

I have MANY MANY MANY close female friends. I made many before I even ever learned about pickup techniques. The way you become friends with a girl is the same way you become friends with a guy. Do not escalate, and be friendly with them.

Now what it sounds like you are trying to do is manipulate this girl into being friends with you. Don't do that. It seems like you have this idea that since the fact it's a girl, you NEED to game this. This is dangerous, very egotistical thinking. Do you feel like you are not worthy enough to have a girl be friends with you without manipulation? Not an attack, honest self reflection. You know guys want to be friends with you, why wouldn't girls?

This reads like you need that validation. Yes, validation feels great, but it sounds like you are hooked. It's not "practicing text game", it's called texting a friend if you guys are just friends.

Honestly, the fact she's attracted to you makes it MORE complicated if you are legit trying to be friends. But again, the way you get out of it is you don't escalate, don't make moves... DON'T GIVE HER THE WRONG IMPRESSION. A true man makes his intentions clear, and your intentions is to be friends.

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Thanks for the detailed answer!!

Do not escalate, and be friendly with them.

That's what I have been doing before Pickup, my whole life. Female Friends until Pickup: 0 (this is the reason for the whole thread...). It doesn't work for me that way, I must be doing something wrong. I can't tell. Probably because I was addicted to video games. My best (guy) friends don't have many female friends either!

Now what it sounds like you are trying to do is manipulate this girl into being friends with you. Don't do that. It seems like you have this idea that since the fact it's a girl, you NEED to game this. This is dangerous, very egotistical thinking.

Problem is, I have found being a touchy person and flirting with everyone is a good trait to have. I am not "manipulating" anyone, the stuff I do (teasing, routines) have become natural parts of me. I've seen the stuff on the forums, tested it and now it belongs to my personality. This is a good example. I use some of these reactions to deal with shit tests because they work really nice <-- is that manipulating? What exactly is "manipulating" for you?

See, I don't think I am "gaming" her. What I do is part of my personality and it feels completely natural. I only think of myself as "gaming" when I am in a club trying new stuff I've read on the forums. That is not natural at all. But once you do that many times, "fake it till you make it", it will become part of you.

Do you feel like you are not worthy enough to have a girl be friends with you without manipulation? Not an attack, honest self reflection. You know guys want to be friends with you, why wouldn't girls?

Until now, no, girls have not wanted to be friends with me. I have no idea why.

I hope so. I was in some kind of "auto-pilot" and kept on gaming her when I realized I don't really want her as a girlfriend but as a good female friend.

Honestly, the fact she's attracted to you makes it MORE complicated if you are legit trying to be friends.

That is bad news :(

But again, the way you get out of it is you don't escalate, don't make moves... DON'T GIVE HER THE WRONG IMPRESSION. A true man makes his intentions clear, and your intentions is to be friends.

Okay. I guess my way to go is not escalating and being nice to her. Let's see if that works. I really hope so.

(This has not worked until now and to be honest I am fucking afraid. It's not that women find me disgusting, smelly, ugly or something - they probably see me more as a background character. You know that guy that hangs with everyone at your school but has no "group of close friends"? That's me with women.)

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Title	I want to game a girl into becoming a very good female friend (nothing sexual). How must I change my Game plan?
Author	sedditq
Upvotes	1
Comments	22
Date	February 3, 2013 3:06 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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