Right, it has been a while since I wrote an FR. However I really would like to share the experience that I had last night:

Last friday I was making my way to my best friends girlfriend's place to have a small lunch and then go to the gym. As I burst through the door I looked to find two additional HB 6 and 7 at her flat. HB 7 really caught my eye. We had lunch and everything and had good conversation and it was fine. Luckily I could act like myself and I was really relaxed since bfgf (best friends girl friend) was in the room with me. You know, when you meet people for the first time you are never the person you are with people who know you well. Since bfgf and I go running with each other every week and go stretching afterward we are quite comfortable with each other. As HB 7 left to go wherever she was going after we I arrived at the gym I lightly mentioned that she was cute. She said that I should have asked for her number but I felt like it would have been too soon although maybe it wouldn't have been. She said that she could arrange something where we would meet again and that was the end of that.

Bfgf invited HB 7 to the chinese newyear party we had yesterday. I was both excited and anxious of it. I tried to keep it calm though. I talked to my best friend, who is also a big sedditor, about it and he told me to just play it cool and not let oneitis take its place. If it doesnt go the way I plan then oh well I have gained experience in the process and i'll find another one soon enough. It was really sobering. It helped me to keep my nerve.

Once she finally arrived the first obstacle was seriously clear. Although I have long since defeated real AA I still had no idea how I would approach her. I mean she was sitting at a round table, with all of the seats taken... The guys were all on the floor because it just ended up that way. We thought this was a pretty sexist turn of events and we laughed a little about it. I decided to keep cool and not to panic, try to enjoy myself and be the person I would normally be. She got up from the table and went somewhere and I decided to steal the chair that she was sitting in back. I didn't think that would bring me closer but moving helped a little. bfgf was sitting right next to me and we talked a little but not about HB 7. While we were talking I noticed that HB 7 was putting icing on some cupcakes that she brought for desert. That was my chance. I took it so quickly that I walked away from the conversation I was having with hbgf right away.

I approached and asked why she was putting icing on the cupcakes now and not earlier. She went into some description which I cannot remember. Now I knew that she was a big baker of pastries and the like. She has pictures of all sorts of cakes that she makes on facebook, one of them was even league of legends themed which I think is amazing because even though I dont game anymore its still a really nice plus for a girl to have. However, I didnt want to mention that and sound like a stalker. This was a good opportunity to talk to her about her passion though since her cupcakes were right there. She made me try them before giving them out to everyone else and asked me if they were good. I dont know too much about cupcakes but they were really nice. After giving them out she sat next to one of the girls who were in a group. Seperated again... I decided that it would be a good opportunity to figure out what the other guys were up to so I decided to back off for a second.

After a while I wanted to try approaching HB7 again and see what was up with her. I was talking with my best friend and bfgf who had started making out... Thats great, I dont mind being the third wheel but I felt like it would be a good enough reason to try and get closer. She was sitting on a couch that was positioned next to a refrigerator. For some reason I did not sit directly next to her but instead I leaned on the fridge. That was a dumb move. I should have gone next to her. So one of my friends just took that spot anyway. Whatever, I dont need that spot. I listen in to the conversation and say a thing or two. bfgf's flat mate was talking about getting injections and stuff so I mentioned a funny story of me running away from the doctor when I was 9 because I was so afraid of getting an injection. However she kept on talking about medical things which I just couldnt keep up with. I kept trying to add things but I couldnt really direct the flow of the conversation. I really wasn't sure what to say or add. If I would have had something to say I would have said it. In any case some space was freed up and I took the chair directly opposite of her. I continued to try and keep up with the conversation talking to my friend next to HB 7 every now and again.

Somehow we manage to get into a conversation. I try my best to keep steady eye contact. Not so much that it makes me feel uncomfortable but more eye contact than I usually give people. The topic of the night before came up. (The night before we were at someone's place and she was there. I came just as she left.) She mentioned this guy who was playing really good guitar. (I played some guitar in front of her as well, it was great because my style is classic which the other guy was a blues man so it made quite a contrast) I do my best to compliment the guy and agree with her that she was a good musician. I mentioned how I played clarinet at the open mic at the student union every second week though I would love to join a band. HB 7 mentions that people post advertisements in record shops and the such. My eyes -light- up with excitement and I thank her for that amazing detail. We keep talking more and she mentions that she likes some jazz. I mention that I am often at the jazz bar in our city on the weekends with my best friend. I mention that she could come along with us some time. She accepts. That's cool. I dont think I spend much time talking to her after that. I try to keep up with the conversation but the party is dying down at this point.

Bfgf and I are under the impression that she need to take the same way home as I do. She suggests that I should walk her and her friend who is visiting home. I think that is fair enough. I go and ask and it turns out she is in the opposite direction to me. That was a surprise. I also make sure to pick up her number for next week. I really didnt mind going the opposite direction so I walk them some way before she turns around and tells me that they can take it from there. Its a bit awkward at this point because she has something in her hand so a hug isnt really possible. It was more like a wave but I did manage to touch her on the arm as a friendly good bye...

So there we go. I really hope she doesn't flake on me. I have been finding lately that a lot of girls have been flaking although I think this is one of the most solid attempts I have made so far. I just need more practice. The thing with the sitting wasnt really AA as much as it I wasnt sure what I could and couldnt do. That will sort itself out in time. Ill call her on friday or something and let her know about the time and place to meet. Then Ill make it clear that I want to date her and maybe if I did enough escalation by then Ill be able to get somewhere.