[FR] / The part I'm pleased with

I met a girl on OkCupid. She mentioned being interested in a particular type of food in her profile, so I suggested, do you know [Restaurant]? She said she hadn't heard of it, but would love to check it out. At the risk of an OkCupid convo moving too quickly for her to feel comfortable, I replied with:

I will take you to [Restaurant], but only if you can figure out this riddle:

And gave her a simple riddle. Of course she solved it and it was just a matter of scheduling from there.

The date was so-so...she's very quiet and it's tiring to have to carry the conversation for hours. I didn't intend on seeing her again, but the next week she texted me. I had unpredictable pauses between replies (mostly because I was on another date) and she asked if we were going to hang out again.

Tonight we hung out. After reading this suggestion on seddit (that I can't find for some reason), I set it up like this:

  1. "Let's meet at my house and I'll drive downtown so we don't both have to park. 123 Main St at 7pm sound good?"
  2. I was just getting home from work, so I brought her inside so I could let the dog out. We only stayed a few minutes, but it got her more comfortable with being at my place since nothing happened.
  3. After dinner, I'd drive back and say, "you can come in, but I have to get up early in the morning."

This really helped the logistics, and when I suggested changing venues after dinner, she actually suggested we go home and "play with the dog." I tried to say "you can come in, but I have to get up early"...but it sounded kind of forced. Easier to type than say :-/

Anyway, I always struggle with getting the girl up to my room, so when she was in the bathroom (next to my room), I went in my room and started to take my jacket off like I was hanging it up/unpacking as she left the bathroom. She noticed me in there and I said, "have you seen [art that i have on my bedroom wall]?" to get her inside.

Went in for the kiss and she definitely was into it.

The Problem

So I tried to slowly escalate the kiss, I touched her whole body, took my shirt off...went to take hers off but she said no. I played like I wasn't going to take it off, and accused her of taking mine off (jokingly) and went back at it, figured I needed to slow down. Built up the passion again, and went for it again, and same thing.

We dry humped like crazy. I let her get very close to orgasm, actually, and then stopped and said "that's all you get" (as punishment).

The thing is, the same exact thing happened with the last girl. Everything down to dry humping in underwear, as if sticking it in's really gonna make her feel like a slut...

What's missing?!