Hey Seddit, so yesterday I went for a solo night and I'm not so happy with the outcome even if I #-closed. It's obvious I really need to progress. This is my first FR and also the first time I stop lurking and try to actually do some shit.

Background: I'm a foreign student in Germany, and even though most of you may think of this as an asset (and I guess it is), it's also for me a problem as I can't speak german so well and most of the time I just can't understand what people says to me and we have to switch to english. I look really average, tall and skinny, but no major physical qualities. My inner game sucks and I lack confidence, but my main problem reside in the fact that I can't maintain and orient the conversation according to what I need (escalation etc...)

Prelude: So, I'll make a real quick introduction on what happened before my solo night so you guys can have some kind of frame about me and my state at that time.

Went to some small party with a friend, start drinking

We decide with my friend and another dude that we should go out and have fun (the party kinda sucked)

These damn guys were too fucking slow and we missed the bus

We stop by my friend's room and decide to roll a joint waiting for next bus (stupid idea)

We smoke, enjoy life, but we obviously feel so fucking lazy, lose motivation etc.., they go to their flat to watch some animal porn or whatever.

But I'm like, damn shit I'm gonna go downtown still and I'm gonna do something (I've lurked for too long)

I grab the bus alone, wait for my stop, then walk to a bar.

It's about 2am, I'm still high, a bit drunk and I'm fucking exited about what's going to happen...

The night: So I'm walking to the entrance, there is a line and I think it's a perfect opportunity to meet some guys. So I ask to the group in front of me (3 dudes) if they think it's still good in the bar, despite it's 2am. They say yes and stuff and then ask me from where I'm from, because of my shity accent I guess. we keep conversing and we decide to drink together inside. I also talk with a guy behind me who litteraly looked like Edward Norton, was really cool and I'll call him Ed for later. Once inside (it's over crowded) we get some beers, try to look around for some girls but I get completly lost, I don't know what to do to approach the groups, where to start, and I start to sip my beer in a great AA moment. Suddently Ed calls me and introduce me to a set of two girls HB6 and HB7. That's kind of crazy, I don't know the guy and he wings me without I even ask for it. So he starts to talk to HB6 and I turn myself to HB7, introduce myself and start talking... One word to describe this, awkward. I'm asking shitty question (studies hobbies, etc..) and she doesn't seem to care, she looks somewhere else when I talk. We enjoy many awkward silences, and I think I made her laugh a bit but in the end I guess she was just amuzed by this AA guy trying to sarge her. At some point she says to Ed and HB6 (not to me) that she's going to smoke and she just leaves. I don't know what to do. I don't want to stay and disturb Ed (he was doing great), but I also don't want to walk after HB7 like a puppy. Another tasty awkward moment looking at my glass and wondering what to do. I finally decide to find another set in the bar.

I see an other HB7 (we'll call her HB7') with 3 guys around her and we make eye contact, great moment but then I turn away (shit I really forgot to bring my balls that night) and talk to another dude that looked cool. Turns out that he was a friend of HB7' and she eventually comes to talk to him. Eye contact again. I take that as an IOI, while Daft Punk "Get Lucky" plays loud in my head (because I felt I was really lucky), and I immediatly starts conversing.

Me: Hey how are you?

HB7'(smile, happy to talk to me i guess): fine ! Where are you from, you're not german.

Me: I'm from ______ (bwaam light in her eyes, ok beeing a foreigner is a great asset I think). My name is Vizir, yours?

HB7': I'm HB7'

...etc etc, we then start to have a very basic conversation, as my conversing skills really suck, but she looks interested, I don't know how or by which sorcery. Anyway cool dude comes many times, he's totally drunk and tries to kiss her, touch her boobs and stuff like that, I'm laughing so hard to this (I really like drunk dudes), and she insists a lot on the fact that they are just friends, and she's not interested in him. At some point he says to her in german (because we were talking in english) that she should suck my cock (wtf drunk bro??)and she answers that I have a girlfriend and that nothing is going to happen. I smile at her and keep eye contact during the whole conversation.

Me:HB7', how do you know I have a girlfriend?

HB7'(fucking embarrassed haha): because you said it to me (of course I didn't)

Me(playing with her embarrassment): really? no I don't think we talked about that.

HB7': hmm I'm pretty sure I heard you telling me you had a girlfriend (smellslikebullshit.jpg)

Me:hmhm nah, it's not possible because I don't have actually.

HB7'(eyes down): oh sorry..

Me:haha no worry.(pause) So I heard you had a boyfriend?

She laughs, I'm smilling and doesn't let go the eye contact.

HB7': No, I don't have either.

Good. After some point I go to the toilet and ask her to watch my glass for me, she agrees. When I come back a few minutes later, she's waiting for me alone, the other left. Ed comes back to see me and say he's leaving, providing me with a good social proof and gives me his facebook. I turn back to HB7'.

HB7':Hey, I kept an eye on your glass.

Me:Thank you. (the falsly angry) Oh you drank in it !

HB7'(almost in panic):No no ! I swear !

I laugh

Me: ok ok.

I finish the glass, she says she has to go. I ask for her number and she gives it to me quite willingly. I smile at my first victory

For the bonus event, I met some guy afterward, completly drunk, who payed me shots and offered me a bag of hash...hahah this was great, and made the night completly worth it in any case

My analysis: I'm good at meeting guys, I have no problem, but I have too much damn AA for women. I got super lucky that night and except the fact that I was kind of good at social-proofing with other dudes, my overall game sucks. I can talk but I can't make a conversation interesting and make myself valuable without showing off.

I'm openned to every comments, tips, help, opinion, etc.. I really want to progress and I'm willing to make the efforts needed.