If you couldn't already guess from the title I'm new at this. Today I was bored out of my skull and was arguing with myself whether or not to go to the mall and practice daygame. I really stewed on this one until I thought "fuck it I'm willing to walk an hour what could it hurt?" (I have a license but no car). I'm sure many of you sargers have faced worse logistics for far less. So i figured if I was ever going to get this approach thing down I should stop being a bitch and just do it.

The walk itself was more than enough to get me in a good mood. On the way over I was able to relax while listening to music and waved at people as they passed by. The whole state thing becomes irrelevant if you have ever read The Power of Now. Who needs state when you are always in the moment.

Once I got to the mall I stopped into a Toy store that sells comic memorabilia for sheer nostalgia purposes. I even tried to start up a conversation with a few people there. Sadly socializing doesn't work very well in a comic store sometimes (what a shocker.) Once I gave up trying to talk to people there I stopped at Fye. That's when I noticed the proximity effect pua's mention on here. This girl was hovering around me. I wasn't really interested in the girl at all, although I should have at least tried to make some sort of conversation at the time.

After picking out the cd's I wanted, I started up a conversation at the register with an older lady for the fun of it, which led me to chatting up the cute girl who rang up my purchase. I left the store for a little bit to get some Subway while waiting for one of my cd's to finish burning and talked to the subway employees to keep my social groove going. When I returned to the Fye I asked the girl if she had a break coming up. Sadly it led to a rejection, but it wasn't a crash and burn. I think things might have gone differently if I was able to generate more attraction somehow, who knows. The point being that it wasn't a big deal. The world didn't end, I didn't fall into some pit of despair, and it's not like she's the last girl on the planet (there are more than 3.5 billion where she came from), what I'm really trying to say is just go for it and learn from your mistakes. If anything I'm even more motivated now to go out sarging and work on my people skills.

TLDR- hit on girl got rejected. Didn't cry about it. Things other newbies like me should focus on. (1.)Basic social skills, stop reading seduction shit and just talk to people for the sake of talking to people, you will eventually get at it from doing it so much. (2.)Leave negative emotions out of self reflection, you won't learn anything if you taint the information your failures will provide you. (3.)Enjoy the act of flirting with girls in an of itself, it's fun and even if it goes nowhere the positive emotions more than make up for the lack of a desired outcome.