Where do I go from here?

haleyjaye · 2013-06-19T09:03:27+00:00

Run away as fast as you can. Don't stick your dick in crazy. Take a moment and figure out why you have such bad taste in women. She sounds like a raging whore that only invited you to buy her drinks and to give her and her boyfriend a ride.

2013-06-19T12:43:25+00:00

While you're waiting for her to call you (which may or may not happen), keep meeting other girls.

If she ends up calling you, give her a shot. If that doesn't work it, it doesn't matter, because you have other girls to hit up.

If you get the impression that she's using you, bail ASAP.

recyclablebantha · 2013-06-19T13:11:15+00:00

Alright, I met this girl on a dating site, we messaged back and forth a few months ago and she messaged me tonight.

First off, you should realize that there is a high number of girls on dating sites who use such sites to gain access to guys to have casual relationships with. There were a lot of signs of that here. I think if you are looking for love, you should be REALLY cautious with the people you meet from such sites.

If you want fun, however, then you're not going to have a problem here.

After a few messages, were hanging out tonight. She tells me where to meet her at this bar. Its like a half hour away, but I show up and it's a strip club and she's with four dudes.

And yeah, she just showed up with an entourage of guys and unless they're all gay, at least one of them is an AFC who's "biding" his time trying to get to her.

She works two jobs and this is her last day off for a while. (She doesn't know when her next day off will be.) She asks me to buy her a few drinks and I do.

Hmmm. Keep an eye out for any inconsistencies in this story about her schedule. Something about this girl puts my ears up. I won't come out and say that she shouldn't be trusted. Everyone deserves a chance. But that doesn't mean you should expose yourself to being used or taken advantage of.

Most of her friends leave but this one fuckin dude. When were outside (flirting a little) she says he's like her brother. But the dude doesn't have a ride now, so I'm his fuckin ride.... Great.

This is a little strange. WHY would he stay if he knew he didn't have a ride? Had he established any rapport with you that would have led him to assume that it was cool to assume you'd give him a ride?

Makes it seem like he was staying to minimize the amount of time you'd have alone with her.

I ended up buying her a few drinks and even one for her friend.

Why were you buying so many drinks?

....but ended up settling on going back to her brothers place (her real brother). On the way there I'm kinda pissed and I catch her looking at me. I hope she didn't get a pissed off vibe.

First off, why were you pissed?

Secondly, if you were pissed, it was probably transmitted to her if she has any awareness of you at all.

As she was walking away I said call me later and she said she would. I hope I didn't come off as desperate.

We weren't there. We have no idea. But if you're asking us this, chances are that you already have the answer to whether you were desperate or not.

What the shit do I do next?

Get your mental house in order. You may need her too much. Or you may need the idea of a girl too much. If her deciding to sleep over at her brother's house instead of spending the night at your place, is enough to get you pissed off, you might want to look on Seddit's side-bar and look up things like Outcome Independence or scarcity mindset.

Title	Where do I go from here?
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Date	June 19, 2013 8:12 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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